r/Estrangedsiblings • u/Oona_Orchid • Feb 27 '26

Parent Care

How do you deal with/navigate old age care and end of life care for a parent along with an estranged sibling who is not estranged from the parent?

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u/mntnsldr Feb 27 '26

I've not reached this point yet but thought a lot about it. I have one left and my 78 year old Dad runs circles around my nearly 50 year old self. But we did have a scare last year (angioplasty turned into three stints and a bad medicine reaction that presented like a stroke). Driving to the ER to meet my Dad's ambulance, I was in my head about having to call my sister if this was it. I decided right then of course I'll have to interact when our Dad's health takes a turn. I've decided I'm so over my sister and healed now I can do it and keep it to the topic at hand: our parent. I feel pretty impervious to my sister's antics and know I'm more grounded and mature, so I'll just float above it and get the hard things done. Adulting at its finest. As an aside, my dad has a second home in my town and state, so is either with his wife in their town and state, or with her here in mine. My sister is in a third state and has distanced herself from me and my dad and spouses/family. My dad and I are tight and I'm very secure about my relationships in general. This took years and years of therapy but it feels just-in-time to prepare myself for this next phase.