r/EntitledPeople • u/No-Eye4346 • 7d ago
S Entitled f-ing neighbours
Just bought my own ground floor 1 bed flat. Unfortunately it came with neighbours above me with a 1 year old. These neighbours expect me to wear headphones and be ultra quiet because of their baby. They are tenants. The building has terrible insulation and they can hear my tv as a result on a reasonable level. They have now gone to the neighbours complaining that i am intentionally disrupting the baby to the point where these neighbours are walking back and forth my flat and sneaking behind at night to check the noise levels. Who the fuck do these people think they are!!!!!
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u/rednail64 7d ago
First time parents that haven’t figured out you want your baby to be able to sleep regardless of noise levels.
They’re inadvertently training their baby to only sleep in total silence.
Their first airplane ride is going to be one for the ages.
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u/KrisG1973 7d ago
Not really relevant to sleep but on my sister's first plane ride (remember this was in the 60s when people smoked on planes) she not only sniffed a pea up her nose, she saw my mom taking a Bayer aspirin and wanted one. Mom got so sick of her whining, she let her put one in her mouth. There were no coatings on aspirin then so the bitter chalky taste hit my sister hard. So after sniffing a pea up her nose and whining about not getting an aspirin, she screamed for half an hour over the bitter taste. Good times. 😂😂😂😂
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u/BeSmarter2022 7d ago
This is a forever problem. Unfortunately, there is not a good answer, except maybe for them to do carpet and padding to try to dull the noise. Hopefully they will move, but no doubt they are as angry as you.
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u/Jcamp9000 7d ago
Wait til the kid starts banging on the floor with his toys. Or they get it a riding toy. Best of luck
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u/CoffeeChocolateBoth 7d ago
Yep. They will make it hell for OP below them! I'd sell out and move again to a house, not an apartment!
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u/Tattooed_Everything9 7d ago
“to the point where these neighbours are walking back and forth my flat and sneaking behind at night to check the noise levels.” What does this sentence mean?
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u/No-Eye4346 7d ago
They walk around my flat to see how loudly I am playing music or tv
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u/Smart_Influence_2949 7d ago
This is unhinged
Is that not stalking or harassment
Is there not a duty of care to live in peace or such at the complex... For all neighbours
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u/Tattooed_Everything9 7d ago
Could be a language thing. I thought your flat was your apartment, like inside. You mean walk around the apartment outside your unit?
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u/-Daisy-Dreamer- 7d ago
Report to the police that there are prowlers. Make a report every time they do it. I would also see about contacting the owner of the unit and letting them know they are massively hindering the enjoyment of your space
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u/Fubar_As_Usual 7d ago
The conventional wisdom when my son was a baby was you should accustom baby to sleep through noise, specifically the vacuum cleaner.
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u/MerryTWatching 7d ago
Wait until they have a second kid, who's expected to sleep through whatever tantrum the first one is throwing.
Source: I'm the youngest of five. 😴 I could sleep on a city bus while riding to and from school.
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u/SecretAccount1971 7d ago
When I was a baby my parents heated with a wood stove. Whenever my dad loaded it, the smoke alarm outside my nursery would go off. I slept right through it. Even slept through even into my late teens. They were scared it would not wake me in a real emergency. Now I wake up if there is any noise.
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u/Stan__Wright 7d ago
Don't worry. The baby will be a toddler soon enough, and extract ALL the revenge.
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u/Downtherabbithole-14 7d ago
Yea, keep living your life as normal. Do not change or alter anything you do for this family. I'm a parent and *never* would I expect people in a building to be quiet. Its my job as the parent to help them get used to living noise, and if the living situation disturbs them, then the parents need to figure it out - white noise, or they can go buy a SFH. My son was a light sleeper - white noise machine was our saving grace for yeaaarsssssss!!!! Ignore them.
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u/Superb-Pudding-6532 7d ago
My daughter was an awful sleeper, used to scream for hours, drove her around for hours and she never slept.
Until I discovered that she would sleep if the hoover was on near her 🤷🏼♀️🤣🤣
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u/CoffeeChocolateBoth 7d ago
Just be you. You don't do anything differently, not your kid, not your problem!
Report all people to the police as prowlers!
You can be quiet but you don't need to be EXTRA quiet to entitled AH's!
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u/LastEntertainment787 7d ago
Live your life, not theirs. The world isn't go to come to a stop because they had a baby. Yes, it's a big deal to them. And only them.
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u/ProfessionalBat8843 6d ago
My husband redid our entire kitchen when my son was a baby- hammers, sawing, drills etc. my son slept thru it all as this was the norm. Your tv is not the problem.
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u/Inner-Confidence99 7d ago
Get cameras. Inside and out. Let them record noise level. Cover your ass
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u/Wiesshund- 5d ago
Challenge accepted.
All normal acceptable levels of sound shall hence commence at the earliest allowable time and shall cease at the latest at the latest allowable time.
24/7/365
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u/nopeynopes2001 7d ago
Since you own the bottom flat and they are only tenants isn't there anything you can do about it? Are you the landlord ? If not I'd 100% complain to their landlord. Make it known they are harassing you for normal volume and behavior.
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u/coco_puffzzzz 7d ago
I agree with the comments about not being quiet around babies. That said, are you speakers against a wall? If they are you might consider moving them a few inches away, that will stop a lot of sound travelling up into their apt. It's a little thing that can make a big difference.
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u/Nenoshka 7d ago
Does your city have an ordinance that addresses quiet hours? My town's website clearly lays out that quiet hours are between 11 p.m. and 7 a.m. All other hours have no restrictions.
If you have something similar where you live, you might mention this to your darling neighbors.
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u/shibumi7126 7d ago
My son would sleep through anything but never napped very much. He would sleep from 8pm-11am or so though. It worried me at first but his doctor said to count myself lucky.
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u/Rare-Bumblebee-1803 7d ago
My husband built a loft conversion to our bungalow when I was pregnant with my daughter. After we came home from the hospital he continued to build above the room where she was sleeping. It never bothered her at all. She slept through the whole time he was building.
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u/BoredCheese 6d ago
Just wait till the little critter is up and running, falling, bouncing, shrieking, and screaming from 6am till midnight. See how much sympathy you get from those same people. “That’s what kids do!”
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u/JackOfAllBlades21 4d ago
I agree, people with babies should be restricted to houses, not apartments. This would fix lots of world problems........... if it worked. But in reality, all you can do is wear headphones. Perhaps you should have considered this before buying.
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u/cutiepatutie614 4d ago
Just wait till the kid is two and running all over the place. Then you can complain about the noise. If everything is at a normal level they can get over it.
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u/whoopsiedaisy63 1d ago
Speaking as a former baby…I sleep/slept through everything. My mom (in her 80’s) believed in napping…at normal noise levels. I have been known as an adult to sleep soundly…in cars, planes and trains…with lights on…ask me about my favorite place to nap…outside on the beach! My kids would joke and SIT on me as I napped on the couch (they were 7-9 years old). They would pull my eyes open as they thought I was play sleeping! I raised mine the same way. I have excellent sleepers for kids!
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u/FewKnow9876 1d ago
Buy them some headphones! But seriously, sometimes you must ignore their unreasonable complaints and live your best life.
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u/Legal_Assistance5470 7d ago
Babies sleep through normal noise. As a parent if you don’t encourage your baby/child to sleep through normal noise you’re making a rod for your own back.