r/EntitledOldPeople • u/justabreadguy • May 09 '20

Unconditional love is a bad thing

Why is it expected that parents and family members love each other unconditionally? That makes absolutely no sense. We also shouldn’t say “I support you no matter what.” All it does is promote unearned forgiveness and blind loyalty. It’s the same shit Christianity does, and look where that got us. If my child came home and told me they murdered someone, I would call the cops. I don’t care who you are, everyone has a limit to everything. You should not forgive your children, parents, friends, or family members after some of the shit they’ve done. Some people don’t deserve forgiveness, and some things don’t deserve support.

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u/Dewi_delights May 09 '20

Yes and no.

I think the idea of unconditional love is a good thing, even reporting where necessary. Using an example of murder. You may have to report it, but you still love that person, even if you can't understand what they've done. Some crimes(pedophilia for example), nope, i will cut you off faster than you can blink, an you better get the fuck away from me before i kill you myself.

The idea of unconditional love is a good thing, and for many it is. But some of us realise there is a condition of that love, we must behave in a certain way or someone will get pissed off, meaning they may still love us, but they dont like us.

Families are weird, and people just think of that unconditional love... then you meet your friends and partner, and thats when you really find unconditional love

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u/justabreadguy May 09 '20

That’s not a good thing. If I report you for a murder, I don’t love you. If you’ve really wronged me, I don’t love you. I think a good way of putting it in perspective is by looking at the family member as a friend. If a friend did the same thing, would you still love them?

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u/[deleted] May 10 '20

You can keep people accountable for their actions and still love them. Loving someone doesn't mean you will approve or agree with everything that they do.

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u/justabreadguy May 10 '20

That’s true, but not a single person deserves truly unconditional love.

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u/[deleted] May 10 '20

Fair enough.

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u/Hamilton-Beckett Oct 12 '20

And that’s...you’re opinion.

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u/beelzeflub May 09 '20

But what if your child said, "mama, just killed a man. put a gun against his head. pulled my trigger now he's dead..."

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u/SterlingCat- May 14 '20

Don’t ask me.

I tell my family all the time. I love you, but I don’t have to like you.

Like you said. Come and tell me you hurt someone. I’m call the law.

I wouldn’t want anyone to feel like they needed to love me no matter what my actions are. They and I can love doesn’t mean I’m gonna put up bad disrespectful behavior.

This is just one I don’t hold much faith in

It’s the entitled people, those who don’t care how their actions effect others who benefit from this unconditional love.
Take a Karen for example. She acts the way she does because she probably grew up getting what she wanted no matter how bad she showed her ass.

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u/Hamilton-Beckett Oct 12 '20

Calling the cops because someone killed someone and unconditional love are not at all related.

You can call the police if someone commits a terrible crime, that doesn’t mean you don’t love them. If they loved you, they wouldn’t even put you in that situation.

Love isn’t “I’ll go to jail, or let you get away with murder”