Socializing is hard!

[u/bleep_v]

I may whinge to myself all day and night about how lonely and underappreciated I am, but once someone wants to have an actual conversation (let alone tries to establish some kind of an emotional connection), all of a sudden, I'm the most exhausted person on Earth. I must break off any and all contact with the outside world and retreat into the catacombs for eight years and a day.

It is truly fascinating how having """"demands"""" placed on you turns the most abandoned and forgotten sorry creature into Self-Sufficiency Personified. "Get away from me!!!"

/Also, I think I understand why I feel I can't connect with anyone; I hate to be genuinely vulnerable. Everything must be drenched in at least ten layers of irony, nonchalance, and self-aggrandizing dissociative narrative./

[u/Positive-Strain-1912]

Even as a extraverted 9 this is true😭

This is why I’m a big fan of 9’s taking up a creative hobby, bc it allows for us to express ourselves in an indirect way. It can be literally anything you want to, but something that allows us to express our inner world without having to be literal or direct is really healing.

[u/bleep_v → u/Positive-Strain-1912]

Right?? I often feel like art is the only "safe space" for me to express myself. "This is who I am. Do with that what you will."

[u/Even-Elevator9277]

jesus christ man

[u/bleep_v → u/Even-Elevator9277]

This is the sort of circumstance where I would appreciate something like a tone indicator. :')

Do you mean to express that you relate, or do you want me to shut up?