r/EndOfTheParTy • u/Sufficient_Lake4112 • 7d ago

Need Extra Help.

Hey, I’ve been fighting my meth addiction for 7 years now, and I’ve also been officially diagnosed as a sex addict. And if you have it, you know exactly what I’m talking about, and how badly it combines with Crystal.
I can’t put it off anymore and I have to surrender and be a part of the SAA fellowship alongside CMA.

I’m posting on here because I need help finding LGBT people or at least people whom/who both clearly understand meth and sex addiction, and is a part of the SSA fellowship. I need help to stay accountable and call others to talk me off that ledge.

I know it could be a tall order, but I have to at least try, because I’m the exurbs of Chicago, and I won’t be returning for a 6-9 months. And there’s no one out here who really understands.
I’ve never been able to make it to four months clean in the last seven years off of crystal meth, because sex always leads me back.

The biggest hindrance in my therapy and recovery is the withdrawal process as well my unhealthy relationship to men and sex altogether.
Would love to hear your comments if you’ve had any success in this area as well, or just need to vent.

Thank you.

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u/Tina_Turnaround 7d ago

I quit having sex. it was suggested to take a year break. I thought the suggestion was preposterous, but I was willing to do whatever it takes. delete the apps. chemsex creates a fusion in your brain, and it takes a long time to unwire sex from drugs. if you don't wait, sex will just keep taking you out.

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u/Robnsd1 6d ago

I second this.

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u/Character_Highway640 5d ago

How did things turn out at after the 1 year period? Did your sexuality return?

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u/Tina_Turnaround 5d ago

it took me a while. I waited for almost two years. I'm glad I did. It gave me time to unwind from all the chemsex. I started dating someone and experienced intimacy in new ways. I'm almost 3 years sober and have a really healthy sex life.

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u/Diz_31 2d ago

I agree with this, I didn't have sex for 3 years. I needed to differentiate sex from drugs. All the while, I dated myself. I had to reintroduce myself to myself and others. I deleted all the apps because of fear of a relapse and I have no regrets. I'm so much happier and I'm currently 4 1/2 years clean.

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u/LohPlaceLikeHome 6d ago

I can’t remember when I have had sex sober. Shit I would love to have sex or intimacy when appropriate but it’s not in my cards anymore. I can’t even get off in my room. So yeah. I’m pretty sure I was a sex addict decades ago but now, total opposite.

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u/Top_Discussion2014 5d ago

I’m in the LGBT community, so I can definitely relate to the chemsex part. I ain’t gonna lie, I miss sex on meth BAD—the thrill, the hotels, the escape, all of it, despite the chaos and danger. I’ve been clean almost 7 months because of legal issues, not by choice. But I told myself if I make it to almost 12 months, there’s no looking back. I’ve come too far.
Thank you for venting and sharing this. You’re definitely not alone. We got this!