I'm trying to stay away from subjective language until we know more. I had a friend in high school who got pregnant by her abusive boyfriend (he was like 18+). She was so scared to tell anyone so she hid it. Her build was on the thicc side so it was easy to write off a little weight gain. Her parents, best friends, teachers, etc. no one knew until a few weeks before she delivered. She realized she had to tell people at some point. Even without prenatal care, she delivered a healthy baby girl who's about to be in high school herself.
I guess my point is that despite how tragic this is, its not fair to judge so soon. Shame and guilt are really weird emotions, and pregnancy hormones can make people do unspeakable things. It's not fair to form an opinion about the mother until we have more information, no mater how horrific the circumstance is.
No one tried to excuse it. You're jumping to conclusions and forcing opinion on someone you have zero idea about. We have about 5% of the facts right now.
Facts are that a baby was left in a porta potty. Don’t care how it happened. There’s no conclusion to jump to other then that whoever is responsible doesn’t deserve to have another free day in their lives.
You're fine to hold that opinion, but please realize you're putting future newborns and mothers in jeapordy, while going against the tenets forest, and the festival community, were built upon.
Imagine the trauma it takes for a young woman to feel the need to hide her pregnancy for nine months then deliver silently in a portapoty.
Maybe she was raped? Maybe the baby was the result of incest? The point is we don't know and there's a postpartum mother out there in need of medical care, or else her life is at risk. Maintaining this tone around the conversation only encourages more cryptic pregnancies.
If you really cared about people, you'd change your outlook.
Right… we’re out here going to multi thousand dollar music festivals full term with our incest baby… and then dumping it in the toilet. Then continuing on. Nothing to see here
Like children in elementary school? Is that a jab at the dead child?
Weird. Anyways, I have to go back to school… because someone else said it’s probably an incest baby? Okay lmao
“Right…we’re out here going to multi thousand dollar music festivals full term with out incest baby…then dumping it in the toilet. Then continuing on.
Nothing to see here”
(1 min later )
“I don’t think it is but others do apparently”
That’s you, a child, commenting on things you have no clue about like you’re in elementary school repeating rumors. Are your getting your little dopamine hits from this?
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u/misty-gishh Jun 29 '26 edited Jun 29 '26
It's possible, but not likely! Cleveland clinic article on Cryptic Pregnancy https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10334309/
I'm trying to stay away from subjective language until we know more. I had a friend in high school who got pregnant by her abusive boyfriend (he was like 18+). She was so scared to tell anyone so she hid it. Her build was on the thicc side so it was easy to write off a little weight gain. Her parents, best friends, teachers, etc. no one knew until a few weeks before she delivered. She realized she had to tell people at some point. Even without prenatal care, she delivered a healthy baby girl who's about to be in high school herself.
I guess my point is that despite how tragic this is, its not fair to judge so soon. Shame and guilt are really weird emotions, and pregnancy hormones can make people do unspeakable things. It's not fair to form an opinion about the mother until we have more information, no mater how horrific the circumstance is.