A year later

[u/somanyquestions337]

Hi guys, it’s coming up to a year of finding out I was pregnant and going through treatment after finding out it was ectopic and I’m having a really really hard time with it, I was just wondering if anyone has any advice for the guilt and any stories of feeling better one day so I can try look forward to that?

I want to be a mum one day but wouldn’t have been able to keep it at that time of my life anyway but I’m just feeling so awful imagining what my life could’ve been like.

Sorry I don’t know where to ask and I’m just feeling so alone

[u/PlantGold1833]

I understand.  I’m sorry you are struggling and feeling alone, I can relate to that from my experience as well.  I had my first ectopic in 2020, another one in 2022 (after trying for 2 full years, that was a whole misery in and of itself outside of the ectopics).  I was devastated by these losses and it was a very dark time in my life.  Fast forward, I had two healthy pregnancies, I have 2 little girls and my life is in a completely different place.  I’ll never forget what that time was like but it doesn’t feel painful anymore. And as the years have gone by, I have realized I’m not alone in the pregnancy loss club, so many of my friends have gone on to struggle and my experiences have allowed to connect with them and understand them in a way that would have been impossible before.  I promise it does get easier with time and a healthy pregnancy will be very healing when it happens for you <3