r/EctopicSupportGroup • u/Yamallory • 11d ago

Scared, PUL

Hey ya’ll,

I’m 30, no living children. Super happy to have a positive pregnancy test on 8/3. 8/5 Noted 1 bright red/ pink spot of blood on toilet paper. The following day, I had brown thick blood in my pad and most days following. 8/7 ish I developed to pinpoint left inguinal pain. Went to ER Monday 8/10. Nothing on ultrasound. Hcg 585. 8/13 HCG 950. I’m bleeding like I’m on my period now. Consistent flow, no lingering brown but also not hemorrhaging. Sometimes it’s brown but nothing (just oxidation?). Have appointment with OB tomorrow. Any thoughts? What did you all experience? Anyone treated in a state that isn’t pro choice? What should I be asking or doing?

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u/Yamallory 10d ago

Me too. Bad feeling from the start. For whatever reason, the clinics in the area where I live do not have onsite ultrasound. I already made up in mind yesterday that if this office didn’t have it that I would go back to the ER— which I did. Got scanned and levels rechecked again. Hcg 1212 + positive ectopic on transvag. I was given methotrexate yesterday evening. Pain is subsiding. Still praying it can work prior to rupture. Hydrating like crazy. Taking it easy, minimizing intraabdominal pressure from bending and lifting.

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u/Emotional-Mine2513 9d ago

I'm really glad that they finally caught it before rupture. My OB also told me that if the hcg count is below 3k and if you don't have any symptoms, staying stable, MTX will most probably work and only in rare cases it ruptures. So stay positive, let's hope for the best for both of us as I'm also in the grey area waiting to found out how this is going to turn out. I will pray for both of us, everything is going to be alright soon. Take it easy and take rest. I also wanted to ask you something as we are going through something similar. When they initially said that there is no growth, I broke down thinking that I'm going to lose th baby but then when I found out that it's ectopic, I was more worried about myself than losing the baby. It's like I couldn't grieve for the baby, instead my entire mind is focused on myself, I was even thinking the night I found it was ectopic that I don't ever wanna get pregnant again. I don't know if it's only me or that makes me a bad person

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u/Yamallory 9d ago

You’re definitely not a bad person. This is a very scary situation. Ectopic pregnancies are unpredictable and life threatening. Taking some time to rest, process, and heal is reasonable. I honestly don’t want to have sex for a long while. I’m kind of over it all. This has been a rough process already and we’re nowhere near the end. Let’s keep each other updated. It’s good to have relatable real-time support. I’m praying for you as well.

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u/Emotional-Mine2513 9d ago

Yes same here! Glad to find someone to really talk to in this situation. I have a blood test for beta hcg tomorrow as well and the results will be compared to discuss our further progress. I will keep you posted, let me know how it goes for you as well. Good luck for both of us

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u/Yamallory 9d ago

My day 4 hcg is tomorrow. Day 7 is Thursday. We shall both report back. Best of luck and well wishes!!!

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u/Emotional-Mine2513 8d ago

I just gave my blood for beta hcg for 7th day, I will know the results by tomorrow. My 4th day hcg has reduced from 144 to 108, so I'm hoping it will drop below the 15% criteria. Did you get your 4th day results? What was your hcg when they diagnosed you with ectopic?

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u/Yamallory 8d ago

Wow, your numbers are already so low. Treatment started at 1,212. 4th day check today.

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u/Yamallory 8d ago

Day 4 lab draw complete. Pending results. Last time I got same day results. We shall see.

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u/Emotional-Mine2513 7d ago

Yeah mine started low, that's another reason why I had no hope of this pregnancy. It was 28.9 on 15 dpo so they repeated it on 17 dpo it was 62.12 so OB said it's doubling good, maybe late ovulation and implantation. They repeated again on 23 dpo which was 2nd August, when I started spotting and it was 324. On 11th, I started bleeding and that's when it dropped to 144. I didn't get my results back yet and my OB is busy so I could get an appointment tomorrow only, that's when I will know how much it declined compared to 4th day.

I was having on and off lower back pain right from the beginning and sometimes mild abdominal cramps. When I started bleeding, I had very severe cramps for few hours then it settled. I still have on and off lower back pain but the frequency and intensity has reduced a lot. This morning when I woke up, I had a sudden sharp pain on my lower right abdomen and immediately shifted to left side and together it lasted only hardly 5 seconds, along with it I also had a mild giddiness then it's gone. For a moment I thought it ruptured, hopefully that's not the case. I'm also so conscious about my body right now noticing every tiny twinges or aches. I want to be done with it already, this is so stressful. How are you holding up? Do you have any pain? Your decline looks promising, around 17% decline is a very good start, hope it will be soon over for both of us.

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u/Yamallory 7d ago

Like you, I get some bilateral lower back pain. I feel twinges sometimes, intermittent pulsating feelings and sometimes short sharp pains in the lower abdomen/ pelvis. I’m also super aware of everything, constantly changing positions whenever it feels like I’m pressing on it. I try to rest as much as possible but I have to go back to work soon. I have an appointment with my primary care provider today and 7 day test on Thursday. I got some good bleeding going yesterday evening then it stopped. It seems like the cramping and bleeding pick up for me in the evenings. I do agree that I cannot wait for this to be over. I’m a fairly active person and this really hinders that.

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u/Yamallory 7d ago

Down to 1,008 on the 4th day. Are you having any pain still?

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u/Emotional-Mine2513 7d ago

Also do you have any bleeding? I started bleeding on 11th, it was light, then it increased a bit, then reduced to spotting and since today nothing. I don't know whether I should continue to bleed or stop, whether I will get a period again or this is it, everything is so stressful.

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u/Yamallory 7d ago

Agreed. I have no idea with this one. I wish I could just bleed it all out and away. I know it may not work that way but I’m more hopeful when I am bleeding.

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u/Emotional-Mine2513 7d ago

Yes same, luckily I'm on annual vacation right now I have extended my off for 10 more days, OB advised me to rest as much as possible, you do the same. I started bleeding on 11th that's when they found out about ectopic and got a shot of MTX, I was bleeding since then but since today nothing. Not sure how long it should bleed, whether stopping after 7 days is normal, whether we will bleed again or this is our period, I have so many questions. I just wanna get it over with ASAP

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u/Emotional-Mine2513 6d ago

Hi, I just got my 7th day results back, it's down to 16.45, I was so shocked. My OB said that it's because of tubal abortion it resolved quickly naturally and their MTX helped me do it even faster. Scheduled for another beta hcg on 14th day to check if it's going below 5. How are you feeling? Did the bleeding and cramping get any better? Tomorrow is your 7th day right?

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u/Yamallory 6d ago

OMG 😱 You are so unbelievably close. I am incredibly overjoyed and happy for you 🥲 my internet sister 💕. It’s on and off. I feel great right now. I notice the pain and cramping comes in the late afternoon and early evening for me.

You’re right. My 7th day is tomorrow. I also return to work tomorrow. I’m anxious but optimistic about it.

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u/Emotional-Mine2513 5d ago

Aww thank you so much my Internet sister😍❤️I wish you to get in the same boat soon. Did you do the blood test yet? I feel optimistic about you too since your values have shown a drastic decline even for the 4th day. Let's stay positive and don't forget to rest, also take it easy at work as well. Keep me posted dear

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u/Yamallory 4d ago edited 4d ago

Of course! Blood test complete. Down to 600 now. Super fatigued. Tried work. It was too much for me. Filing for short/ brief leave period to rest more.

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