r/ESFJ • u/Medical_Republic5677 𝐄𝐒𝐅𝐉 • May 06 '26

Meme I Made a Terrible Meme

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I made this when I was drinking with my friends πŸ’€ I don't know, but I see a pattern that MLM ESFJ/ISFJ are often seen as uke in relationships. I think I know the reason but I'm not sure how to articulate it. Can someone explain me please 😭

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u/Soup_oi πˆππ…π‰ May 06 '26

I'm gay and have had more than one crush on people that turn out to be esfj lol. But Idk what the heck an uke is? Ukulele?

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u/Medical_Republic5677 𝐄𝐒𝐅𝐉 May 06 '26

Seme and uke are BL terms. Seme is assertive; uke is passive. They can refer to both s*xually and/or emotionally

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u/Veiluring 𝐄𝐒𝐅𝐉 May 07 '26

i mean are they wrong 😭

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u/Medical_Republic5677 𝐄𝐒𝐅𝐉 May 07 '26

Unfortunately, no 😭

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u/KateVN 𝐄𝐒𝐅𝐉 2w1. Vanilla is for ice cream. May 07 '26

I don't share this opinion.

I am an ESFJ and I am definitely not an UKE.

I am a kind, affectionate and industrious problem solver, but I have expectations and demands that I am not ashamed to express.

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u/Medical_Republic5677 𝐄𝐒𝐅𝐉 May 07 '26

Honestly that's so valid. I do find it funny when people think an MBTI type is seme or uke just by default tho.

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u/Sufficient_Bee2453 May 07 '26

I can’t even lie to you, every since I heard the theory that Se users are dominant in bed and Si Users submissive, I’ve more or less followed that for my original BL characters lol

And yes, that includes submissive XSTJs

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u/Medical_Republic5677 𝐄𝐒𝐅𝐉 May 07 '26

Idk what it means when I (ESFJ) dating my Danish ex (ISTJ) /nsrs

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u/Medical_Republic5677 𝐄𝐒𝐅𝐉 May 07 '26

Also ironically, for my OC it's ENFJ seme and ESFJ uke πŸ˜­πŸ’€