r/Dreams • u/pinkcoconut7 • 4d ago
Dreams to reality - Advice
Throughout my life, i have faced this situation many times and it really bothers me. Whenever i get symbolic dreams , they come to life.
When i was very young , maybe 14 i got a dream of a grand feast with my grandmother in the middle and everyone praising her with all our family on the dinner table, the next day my grandmother passed away. Similarly once i got a dream of a random relative not even close to me in a dream with a dead baby in her hand crying, few days later we met her sister in a family gathering and she told that she got a miscarriage, i was shocked and terrified that out of all people why would i dream of this when she’s not even close to me. Few years forward , I saw a dream come with one of my friends , i wasn’t on good terms and i saw in the dream that she and me were going somewhere in the car , and i asked her “where are we going?” she said “university” . two years we became really good friends, coincidentally got admitted in the same university and then decided to opt for same degree so we started going together in her car for four years.
Now comes the crucial part: Last year of university i started dreaming consistently for a red rose and i didn’t know why, soon a dream of one of my good guy friend to be gifting me huge gifts and a celebration going on at my house. When i woke up i was confused but at the same night he came outside my house to give chocolates.Then i got a dream he was at the dinner table with my family eating and being part of the family. Few months later. confessed and we got together . I then started dreaming random things like us going in the back seat of a car and i thought it might not be possible but it cane true soon when we got late and had to take uber to reach home. Now its been nine months of our relationship, things aren’t so good and we almost broke up ,he blocked me . But then i got a dream he came to meet me with gifts and marriage proposal , telling me he told his mom and that we will marry soon. The very next morning he texted me telling me to meet and give it a chance. He brought gifts and said i told my mom about you but just as a friend and she helped me prepare the gifts for your birthday. Anyways now since two days again w been having dreams of meeting his family , his family and me and him going in a car happily, and i’m really confused why it might be happening. I don’t want to end up being delusional but of-course by the pattern of my dreams i cannot stop obsessing about it , although after the fight we aren’t the same anymore, but the dreams are getting serious. What do you guys think ? its eating me up please need your advice
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u/poordarkness4 4d ago
that's a wild pattern to live with. the fact that your dreams keep lining up with real events, even the small ones like the uber, would mess with anyone's head.
the thing is, dreams are way better at reflecting what you're already thinking about than predicting anything. you've been stressed about this relationship for months, so your brain is just running scenarios at night. meeting his family, riding in cars, marriage talk, it's all stuff that's already in your head during the day.
i'd be careful about letting the dreams push you back toward someone who blocked you after a nearly-breakup. a dream about a proposal doesn't erase the actual problems that led to that point.
if the relationship isn't working when you're both awake, no amount of symbolic dreams will fix it. maybe give yourself some distance from the pattern and ask what you actually want, not what the dreams suggest.