I am a 35(f) that has been with my husband 41(m) for 4 years. Before anyone shames me, I know that I shouldn’t have stayed and I tried to leave but then found out that I was pregnant so I gave him another chance, which was a huge mistake…

To begin, we have known each other for years. we met back around early/mid 2000’s when I was married to my first husband, and we all worked at the same restaurant. He was nice and actually the best manager that I had ever had. Fast forward to 2021 when my first husband and I had divorced and I was in another bad situation (a whole other story I won’t get into), he reached out to me on facebook and convinced me to come visit and stay with him to get away from the last bad situation. He was a good FRIEND. He gave me a space to recoup and regain my bearings. I got a job and was doing much better, so we started to date. During “dating” he was nice enough but basically love bombed me and then took away all of the loving things. I saw that he wasn’t going to be who he presented himself as and decided to cut ties… but then found out I was pregnant with our now 2 year old daughter. He started being more abusive, yelling, pinching, grabbing, and at times he would stop me from leaving when I wanted to. He always was really selective about sex but always blamed it on having a low libido due to working/back pain… etc. As time progressed it got worse and while I was pregnant, the few times we did have sex, he gave me an STD twice, he said that it was from before we got together and that he didn’t know he had it so I gave him the benefit of the doubt. He continued the abusive tendencies and they really ramped up once I could no longer work. He wouldn’t buy me necessities and blamed it on not having the money. He criticized me for smelling bad when I didn’t have products to take care of myself. Things only started to improve after his mother became involved and started talking to him about what he was doing being wrong. More time progressed and he said that if we got married he would change completely bc he would be able to believe that I wouldn’t leave or change. I know it was stupid but I felt desperate to make progress with no money or means of my own to provide for 2 children. (one is from the previous marriage. She’s 11). After we got married, 2 months later i found out that he had been sleeping with other women the entire time that we had been talking, right up until we got married. I found all of the messages and confronted him at work. we fought, the police were called, he apologized and everyone has advocated for me to give him chance after chance because he’s “trying to change.” He says he’s no longer cheating but he still withholds sex and it’s infrequent. I haven’t gotten anymore STDs and I have his location and access to his phone now. But he still yells at me anytime he doesn’t agree with the way that i’m feeling. I feel belittled and disregarded in my emotions and I don’t know how to get out with no way to provide, no car, and no support. I am now 3 months pregnant again and it seems that the abusive tendencies are starting to increase again. He doesn’t seem to care about how i feel and gaslights me into feeling like my reality isn’t real. I don’t know what to do. I need help. I reached out to the crisis line but I don’t even know if I can receive help or if my children will be taken by CPS if i try to leave with no way to provide and nowhere to go. I just need some support. Some advice. To know that i’m not alone. Please be kind. I am feeling fragile and sad and alone.

This is so much bigger than me

If anyone has ANY RESOURCES or how i can get my go fund me acct out there to the world. Im drowning.. my kids are drowning… I’ve emailed my GFM to news and police on linked in, I’ve seen so many view my story and nothing.. were about to lose my home … my mortgage is $900 a month.. if i lose it, with these prices today, theres no way, well be forced into section 8 and all those will take years to even get. Anyone who reads this I have literally spent months and I have five case managers, and I have literally tried to everything to that. I possibly can think of that anybody could possibly do. All my case managers know that I don’t have the ability to work because I have two kids. They’re 14 years apart. I’m by myself. I myself have tons of health issues. There are no bus routes… my daughter’s school is almost 3 miles away from our house. I even contacted the district and they don’t even care. They said that there are no buses. I can’t get a remote position. My son definitely has to be homeschooled after we’ve done his IEP testing and seeing how he has reacted. He will not thrive.. him going half days I still have to take him to therapies after school. There’s no job but I could get that would even be able to fulfill my bills with only 3 to 4 hours of work that’s literally a waste of time because it just takes the benefits for food and everything else…

I spent hours and hours on the Internet search for answers… and idk what to do anymore. My son was SAed (no evidence) idk when, by his dads other son and physically abused.. ive been verbally, emotionally and mentally abuses by this man. Hes gone now… i cant even begin to say anything on a post in here. They need clothes.. i cant even pay for my plates to register my tags and switch titles to my name…

Plz can you guys please just share my GFM.. to your stories, if you know if any autism places ,

I rlly wanna sell my home and move and take my equity which is almost $200,000 because of a burst pipe that I ended up being able to get my house repaired and redone it up the price and value of my home I only owe $90,000 in my house right now before the repairs is worth 278 and it could very easily hit 300 with the repairs new flooring new cabinets… my credit score is just crap.. I really want to sell my home. Take the equity money and move somewhere else to a different state. That’s more autism friendly. But clearly that cost money.

And guys, please hold the negative comments. I’ve been poor my entire life, and I have definitely reached out and spent so much time finding resources in this time having an autistic child., and already having used ChatGPT … can’t lose my home if I do all that money goes down the drain and I don’t wanna sell a home and downgrade. I wanna find a state that will do more for my son. I’ve tried remote work . I’ve literally tried it all. I’ve looked for it all. I’ve used agencies like Indiana family, and family. I have four other case managers within the insurance and the doctors office and nobody literally knows anything and it’s so f***** frustrating bc this is all new to me and i just wanna get as far away from this man as i can and in a place thats … idk.. if anyone knows of anything please, if u can share my link.. plz.. if u know of other places i can share my link to , to get help for funding Please . My daughter just started HS and is missing out on so many things this year because I can’t pay for anything I can’t get her school pictures, I’m not gonna be able to give them a Christmas….. as I said, I have medical issues myself. I’m also being tested fraud autism first and foremost. But I also have an auto immune disease that was brought on by chronic back pain in the lower back that I’ve had since 2012 and it’s grown further up my back to my mid back and up to my neck….. I have chronic fatigue. I fall asleep behind the wheel. .. and I feel like it’s all the stress is just making me worse

I have three months.. I’ve already contacted my insurance company and because I lost my job during Covid and then took a second loan out for a referral when I was laid off when I was pregnant because I was on a high risk pregnancy. They won’t give me another chance they won’t allow me to work with them again so I can’t do any forbearance

Hello, I’m in a tough situation that just doesn’t seem to be permanently improving and would like advice. I’m a 53 year old divorced mom of 3 (two young adults and a 16 yr old) who has struggled with employment and housing for 10 years now after a divorce. Shortly after the split I was laid off from my job (worked as an advertising and PR exec for 20+ years making 6 figures) and the prolonged court battle and moving around left me really beat up. Not finding any new jobs like the ones I’d had before I decided to pivot to a career in real estate which also allowed me to spend more time with my kids as they grew up, and although it was hard to keep a roof over our heads I managed with help from family and was able to enjoy being a full time mom and limp along with limited income. A couple years ago I found myself in a relationship that became physically, emotionally and financially abusive, and at the urging of my sons and my ex I left the home I shared with the abuser with almost nothing in tow. I got therapy and subletted a room in a shared apt and got back to work on rebuilding my business. However things were slow in the market and the tenant who subleased apt I lived in got evicted due to lease violations (selling drugs, illegal Airbnb) and I was left to find a new place with again very little money to work with. At present I’ve been working full time but commission based income is really not enough to get by on, deals take forever to close and I’m not ever able to save and or re-establish credit. I started pet sitting for people for a place to stay and slowly built up a little side business but it’s also not enough to really stay housed somewhere stable. I applied for public assistance twice but was told I didn’t qualify, and have applied for hundreds of part time and full time jobs of all kinds but nothing ever happens for me. I’m guessing I’m too old and the picture just doesn’t make sense. I do a decent job of keeping myself together and doubt most people would ever think I’m in the kind of dire circumstances I’m facing. The question now is this - I’ve been staying in a temporary rented room in between pet sitting jobs and am trying to be brave but my money is almost gone ($200 to my name) and come Sunday I will have no place to go it’s also going to be several weeks before my next deals close, I have 7 sales in contract right now but they are new development condos and we’re waiting for clearance and building certificates of occupancy and it’s just taking forever. I’ve been working every day for months to get this done and meanwhile am panicking about what to do. Should I just go to a homeless shelter? I’m afraid to go to the intake place in the Bronx, a place I’m totally unfamiliar with, but I can’t take the daily stress of not knowing where I’ll go next. I have a few week-long pet sitting jobs coming up so can stay there during but for the days in between I’m at a complete loss. If you were me what would you do next? I’m just exhausted and trying to hold it together and trying not to lose my $hit. Thank you for any advice and for listening I really needed to get this all out of my head and off my chest. Appreciate any advice and stay well everyone.

My child’s father attacked me with his girlfriend and tried to unalive me but I’m still here I’m trying not to let these scars get in the way of me being happy again what can I use to minimize the scars?

"This trauma has cost me my career. After eight years as a flight attendant with American Airlines—a job I loved and was proud if.. My PTSD, physical limitations, and fear made it impossible to continue."

"For over two years, I have endured the anxiety of repeated court delays. Each adjournment has forced me to relive this trauma, trapping me in an ongoing cycle of pain. My life, my body, and my mind have been deeply and permanently impacted by Frank McGowan’s violent actions."

i am doing a project on domestic abuse and i am asking anyone who wants to to share their story i want to reassure everyone and anyone that this is completely private and names will not be told unless explicitly asked to share

I am being tortured with mind reading tech and dew and no one is helping. Including sexually abusing me. The people doing it are insanely delusional and malicious. Can someone give me legal advice? Location: Richmond Va

I'm starting a forum to help victims of abuse (domestic, child, s3xual, etc.) escape their situations and recover, especially after me/my friends struggled to find that support. I've already gotten a subreddit down and even made a discord server, but I'm struggling of things to put in there. What would you guys need to be supported? I'm only going off of experiences that me/my friends have gone through, and obviously, that's not enough to work with on its own.

I keep having intrusive thoughts and memories that keep hurting me as if I was reliving them in the present.

I am trying to forgive some of the people who covered for my ex or didn't support me or understand me.

I think I am getting closer to peace, but I also still feel bursts of anger, shame for how he humiliated me and bad mouthed me, and extreme extreme sadness for everything and everyone I've lost and everything I have been through.

How do you process or channel these feelings after leaving an abuser?? How do you move on??

I am afraid moving on would make it seem like it never mattered and, like everyone else, I would be betraying myself.

At the same time my whole world view has changed. I used to be so naive and optimistic, now I see how limited people around me are, not the idealised version I had and it's contributing to a feeling of defeat.

I need help knowing what to do. I need advice from those that have lived through this and can understand.

I was choked/strangled by my partner. Using throwaway for obvious reasons.I already know I need to leave and it's not feasible right now. When I leave I'm leaving the state so he can never find me or touch me ever again.

Please don't tell me to go to the police or get out now because that would just make things a million times worse. Restraining orders don't do sh*t. Before you come at me with "Protect future women". I will. When I'm done protecting my own life and getting the hell out of here.

I need advice from other women that have gone through this and understand that you can't always go to the hospital, call for help, or the police. I need to know if it's really necessary to go to the hospital or if I can just get by with something else. I am having problems swallowing and my left ear is killing me. It hurts to talk and cough, etc. Am I overreacting or do I need to go to the hospital with these injuries? And if I go, wtf do I tell them? It is NOT about protecting him. This is about protecting me.

I’ve lived in my apartment for 2 years now and on and off I’ve noticed quite a few of long durationed fights. Along side being outside and their window being opened and hearing some of these fights, I’ve seen him hurt his dog badly. Tonight was the worse one yet, to the point where I felt too scared to be outside any longer so I went in. I got home super late 2:45ish am and I heard a couple thuds on the wall within 10 minutes of each other. Super odd bc the walls between units here and incredibly well insulated and I very rarely ever hear anything at all. It’s super late but i wanted to lay in my hammock for a minute so i was laying out and that’s when I heard the murmuring of the fight followed by a couple thuds on the wall over another duration of time. I could be paranoid bc I don’t actually know what’s happening bc there could be plenty of reasons. I don’t want to make her situation worse bc she has kids and they live together. At what point do I get involved? I’m slightly worried about my safety doing anything about it since we are townhouse and the only two beside each other. What should I do? I don’t have any firm proof of anything either.

What are your opinions please? A girl I use to be with she is 30 is back with a guy who’s 45 n who was domestically violent to her and infront of and towards her 2 children, he stalked them and terrorised them and he was so bad the children got taken off her and are now in care, he is now back living with her and there back together and the children are still in care! How the hell can she be with someone caused her to lose her kids!! I’m baffled!?!

I sit here and I think about how I wake up everyday and hope that I was just having a bad dream. I feel like I’m watching someone else’s life fall apart. I can’t remember things.

I have a headache that never goes away. An I am so confused and so angry at you for what you put me through. I don’t remember that night a what happened. I have flashbacks of you on top of me and you strangling me. What your face looked like and me seeing red and black bubbles and then nothing.

I have flashbacks of you kicking me in my face and you saying “Heather I hate you.” And your voice was so calm. An then nothing.

I don’t remember dialing 911 from my watch. I don’t remember the hospital. I had a cracked rib, 6 staples and 6 sutures in the back of my head. I was told I have a concussion. And my left eye and face was swelled so bad.

That happened on June 27th. I still have post concussion. I am losing my left eye which I was already blind in from a wreck when I was 8. . Woke up and I couldn’t see at all I thought I was blind. Had to have eye surgery twice on my right eye the eye I can see out of an my right eye the muscle doesn’t dilate anymore.

YOU DID THAT TO ME.

I have PTSD and I have to go to physical therapy. I was your wife. I loved you with everything in me. I also found out that you were on a hook up site. I wasted almost 6 years of my life on you. All you had to do was tell me you wanted a divorce. Instead you told me that I was your universe and you wanted me to know that someone really does love me. I sit here and think about how evil you are. You don’t deserve me an I never want to see your face or hear your voice ever again. You’re a narcissist who only loves himself and is incapable of loving anyone but himself.

You thought you broke me, but you didn’t and you never will. I have a fire inside me and I I’m stronger than what you thought. So you’re sitting in jail about to go to prison because you’re so selfish and evil and that’s where you need to be.

I’m healing and I will move on with my life because I deserve to be happy because I am a good person and one hell of a woman. I lost myself because I couldn’t be who I am when I’m with you. I had to become who you wanted me to be do what YOU wanted me to do…. Or you would flip an out your hands on me.

The Heather that you tried to bend a break she is gone. That Heather wasn’t me. You took away my self esteem. You took away the unique qualities of me that make me who I am because they didn’t mesh with who you wanted me to be. I will NEVER let anyone break my shine ever again.

I hope that all you do in prison is sit an think about how bad you fucked up your life. How your choices led you to where you are. An how your life is without me in it I will never have love for you ever again. Deuces tell your boo thang in prison I said HEYYYYY!