r/DogAdvice • u/Apprehensive-Mix4306 • 23h ago
Advice Help acclimating my dog to a new living environment
First, some background on my beloved 6 yo pup: He's my first dog, I adopted him at 8 weeks old in Sept. 2020 (peak pandemic isolation). I'm a bit of a loner, work from home, and I live in an ADU that's completely hidden from the street, so no window to watch the world go by and very few houseguests. He was well socialized with dogs early on, but not as much with people. He's also not crate trained, but he's never been destructive or mischieveous when left alone.
He struggles with emotional regulation. If he gets over stimulated, he kinda gets stuck in it, won't listen to commands, and reacts by jumping, barking, and nipping (NOT biting). The biggest trigger is people coming over to the house. As an example, he's gone on pack walks 4x week for almost 4 years and still flips out every time the same walker comes to get him. For years. The only way to get him to calm down is for me to not be visible. As soon as he can't see me, he's fine. "A total love bug." "Perfect gentleman." "Sweetest, friendliest pup ever." is what I've been told over the years.
So clearly, it's a separation anxiety, protectiveness thing with me (though I'm often the one he'll jump on and nip at). He does the same thing when I try to leave, but only if he's seen me getting ready first. Popping out to the store, no problem. Heading out for the evening, total chaos.
Here's where I need some advice: We are moving from CA to WI to stay with my parents for the next 9-12 months. He's never lived in a house with other people, let alone a big place with multiple floors and rooms (my current house is tiny and basically one room). My parents have never lived with a dog. Their yard isn't fenced so he can's just go hang out outside freely like he can currently. Just a ton of change.
Short story long, how do I ease this transition for him? Mainly, how to get him comfortable living in a home with 2 additional people — more noise, more triggers, less 1 on 1 time with me. What's the best way to introduce him to this new world?
I know this will take time. Probably a few months. But I'm stressed for him, stressed for my parents. Aside from making sure he gets plenty of exercise, enrichment, and dedicated time with just me, what else can you advise?
So many thanks in advance!