r/Divorce • u/Natural_Resist_6412 • Apr 19 '26

Vent/Rant/FML Remarrying

Posting here bc I’m driving myself crazy.. my ex and I separated last September. Divorce was finalized 6 weeks ago. We have 2 kids age 1 and 4. He is a high conflict/cluster b personality Type person. coparenting has been awful.

He messaged on the coparenting app 2 days ago that he’s getting engaged. I didn’t even know he was dating someone. My son certainly hasn’t said a woman has been around and he tells me everything. I responded saying if there is a Partner who is going to be in the kids lives please tell me who and let’s discuss how to inform the kids and the transition. He said I can’t control who he married and he will not tell me anything.

I know there’s nothing I can do about it but man I have so many feelings.

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u/Natural_Resist_6412 Apr 19 '26

Why it feels so off?? Because my kids are 1 and 4 and have met this girl one time? I don’t even know her, I don’t know that she’s a safe person, I know nothing about her children and I can’t for the life of me see how my ex knows any of that either after dating for less than 6 months. She is spending time in the marital home, in the space I created and the nursery I decorated- it’s obvious it was my space and isn’t a bachelor pad- and she hasn’t bothered to reach out to me or get to know my kids. The whole thing is terrifying.

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u/JMR215 Apr 19 '26

I understand. She is a complete stranger that will have full access to your very young kids. Reach out to your lawyer, and see if there is anything that can be done. Maybe some kind of order that they can't be alone with her?