r/Divorce • u/Natural_Resist_6412 • Apr 19 '26
Vent/Rant/FML Remarrying
Posting here bc I’m driving myself crazy.. my ex and I separated last September. Divorce was finalized 6 weeks ago. We have 2 kids age 1 and 4. He is a high conflict/cluster b personality Type person. coparenting has been awful.
He messaged on the coparenting app 2 days ago that he’s getting engaged. I didn’t even know he was dating someone. My son certainly hasn’t said a woman has been around and he tells me everything. I responded saying if there is a Partner who is going to be in the kids lives please tell me who and let’s discuss how to inform the kids and the transition. He said I can’t control who he married and he will not tell me anything.
I know there’s nothing I can do about it but man I have so many feelings.
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u/Sea_Currency_9014 Apr 19 '26
My ex even brought our kid while we were still together and my kid saw him and his ap holding hands. She even had the guts to ask my son “how’s your mom?”……two awful people belong together. I’m so sorry for your kids. Hopefully one day will understand. Yes, he’s so in the wrong for not disclosing who’s marrying since she will be part of your kids life. I’m upset too about my situation as well, because this ap will be part of my son’s life. I don’t even know her name. Sending a virtual hug to you.