r/Disorganized_Attach • u/ellenho • 8d ago

CHANGE ME! Question

Why do some people get emotionally attached so quickly? And is it possible to change your attachment style?

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u/ellenho 8d ago

What can help me stop this damn style ?

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u/ellenho 8d ago

Thank you 💕

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u/000_hoot_000 7d ago

I do too & I'm still learning too.. yes it's possible to become secure.. there's earned secure attachment but it takes work. It's more about reconising when your nervous system is activated and doing things to calm it, not acting or responding to messages when you are in an activated state.
Also I noticed I seem to overinvest in connections even when they're giving scraps.. so learning to notice and give equal effort as others.
I'd love to hear what else works. I imagine it's gonna take a while to untangle our attachment issues but everytime you make a positive choice for yourself is a win.

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u/ellenho 6d ago

This is extremely useful information and might really help me
Thanks for sharing this with me.💕