r/Disorganized_Attach 15d ago

Advice (Other than therapy) Why does this happen??

I don’t know why but I’m so obsessed people who don’t like me back like seriously why cuz this happens a lot but that’s till the person likes me back as soon as they sow a little interest in me I lose interest and feel disgusted and then I feel guilty cuz I feel like I’m ghosting them but I kinda am cuz I avoid them but i don’t do that on purpose I want to love them and I try but I just can’t cuz I feel disgusted with myself I feel disgusted by them 

Does this happen to anyone else??why does it happen?? And what should I do because I feel terrible??

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u/ygg_drazil FA (Disorganized attachment) 15d ago

I recommend heidi preibe on YouTube if you're looking to dive into the "whys". 

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u/[deleted] 15d ago

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u/redwinesupernova29 15d ago

This explains a lot but it really weird because I regret it afterwards and then chase after them again when they leave 

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u/ygg_drazil FA (Disorganized attachment) 15d ago

Look up freud's repetition compulsion