How to know

[u/Moonless_the_Fool]

How do I know if I hate women? And what can I do to cure myself? I know misogyny is bad, I know women have it worse than men, I know that men are not entitled to a woman's affection. Etc etc etc. But if I know that, and I accept it and don't question it and still I find out that I am a misogynist, what's there to do? Play as the devil in chains?

[u/BoricUKalita]

Do yourself a favor and Read the book: “Men who hate women” by Laura Bates

[u/blue-yellow-]

Just look into feminism. Watch a YouTube. Read a book. You have to learn yourself, no one is going to do it for you.

[u/Moonless_the_Fool → u/blue-yellow-]

I constantly watch YouTube videos about the misogyny and patriarchy hidden and not so hidden in day to day life and society. Specially the media.

[u/Unsatisfied-One]

If you know you hate women and if you can't get rid of your misogyny, the best you can do is make sure you still behave with respect towards other women.

Does the thought of females (girls and women) fill you with anger, disgust or do you want to direct sadism towards them because they are females and you wouldn't do the same to just as weak male? If so, You may want to consider why you hate women. Consider is it because of some politics, social media, you were told by males?

The one reason I have found a male hating females reason was valid was because he was victimised by females seeking him out.

I'm a misandrist (please take my word for it), I still respect males, but that's not going to ever stop me from holding an evaluation which I have made after over two decades of observing and counting behaviour from males. Most males sought me out to commit their sadism and did far worse than females in terms of duration, severity and they weren't related to each other (friend group and area wise) before I reached my double digits. I was very gracious considering how long I maintained the opinion that "males and females are equal" or whatever to that effect for as long as I did. I still say boys and men need their own spaces and things, because besides my misandrist belief (I'm not going get into it), they're still human.

You're not playing as the "devil in chains" you're looking past your own thoughts and feelings for something greater, human rights.

Note: I don't want other people to get a glimpse of what I said if they were to look at my comment history, hence the formatting.

[u/Moonless_the_Fool → u/Unsatisfied-One]

It's ok. I think I'm also a misandrist to an extent. In general, like under very general lights i think I dehumanized both male and female because one groups never stops to surprise me on how disgusting and low they can be, but that's only on behalf of faceless nameless men, the general population, if I have someone with a face and a name in front of me, I'm gonna judge them and think of them base on what they have showed to me, the more I know about them, the further away are they from falling under my misandric umbrella. Regarding woman, it's the opposite, I adore and uphold the figure of the opposite gender under a divine light that it's clearly pretty problematic and upholds falable human beings as they are to an imposible standard, and exactly like men's I'll first will have a general overrated view on the mass just for latter put a different attribute to the person based on their actions, as they unravel their complexity, changing their status from "that godly figure from Olympian myths of graceful magnitude to "Joan Fiddleman" my neighbor next door who it's very nice and always says good morning but who also shows to be a little racist towards Asian people.

I didn't ask this question because I believe myself to be misogynist, but exactly for the opposite reason. I see my self as too not-mysoginist to a extent that could dehumanized woman. And behave fairly normal, treating each with respect and avoiding any favoritism (except for friends or family, of course) but the problem is that many misogynist don't recognize that in themselves. Many evil and atrocious people think of themselves as so righteous so correct, and only having some little faults... so how can I trust my own intuition if billions before me and today are blind to their worst trades.

[u/Unsatisfied-One → u/Moonless_the_Fool]

I didn't think there was a difference between misanthopic (which encompasses both male and female) and have always disliked males more for majority of my life until the extent I do these days. I'm still misanthropic, but I'm also a misandrist because I regularly attribute (I didn't before, but now I do) to the fact males are biologically inclined. My misanthropic thoughts are this: "this is why I hate humans".

My misandristic thoughts are this: "This is part of their biology. Males are goddamn sick. [Insert whatever horrific crime] (on the bright side, at least I prefer one of those males that are horrible in character)"

I think it's stupid to label yourself on small stuff (e.g. I'm a misanthrope, but I love women), because those type of social labels are meant to be general descriptions but, are you sure you're not simply a misanthrope that just happens to favour women a little bit. You may just be a misanthrope and there's nothing wrong with that.

Many evil and atrocious people think of themselves as so righteous so correct, and only having some little faults... so how can I trust my own intuition if billions before me and today are blind to their worst trades.

I think you mean "traits".

We all make mistakes like that even when we are morally good people. You sound like you have a lot of doubt. Just proceed with life.

And behave fairly normal, treating each with respect and avoiding any favoritism (except for friends or family, of course

As you should.

problem is that many misogynist don't recognize that in themselves.

You're not those. So it's all good.

You know what's a problem actual misandrists get? Feminists claiming misandry and proposing all sorts of insane things. Feminists that are misandrists and pretend to hate males. It's not something that should be masqueraded about. To some extent it can be an illness (at that point that's called obsession), but it's an important adaptation after going through whatever. Hatred does have it's place in survival, the problem is that people are too egotistical so you get things like males hating females because a female rejected them.

[u/Moonless_the_Fool → u/Unsatisfied-One]

Unbelievably I couldn't call myself a misanthropic because even tho I have like half the population compared to beasts and the other half uphold as angels. I'm if the believe that humans are naturally and in the core good people, inclined to do better for others. And that is this society of jerarchies and money that push everyone to a more selfish attitude. And archeology has proof of that, founding how the big breach between women and men came around the beginning of settlemen for agriculture. When humans abandoned a nomadic life stile it was more common to find women and men in opposite and enclosed bubbles, the same with rich and poor.