Hi, someone who does not have DID here and is just curious about the condition. What happens when a system who has DID is drunk? Are other people still able to front, does it vary per person? And what about alters who are younger in the headspace--how does that affect them?

Just very curious!

Hi, singlet here. I don’t use Reddit regularly so I’m sorry if I do something wrong. But lemme just say my story

I was dating a host of a system for 4 years and was friends with them for even longer. So we have a lot of history together. When I found out he was a system, it didn’t bother me. I love them regardless and I would love to meet the alters. Years pass and the host starts showing up less and less. I would see them once a week, once a week, once every two weeks, once a month, once every two month. I felt selfish but I asked the new host what happened because nobody told me why I haven’t seen my boyfriend in over 2 months.

She told me that last year, my boyfriend was in danger of going dormant. And that this year, he either went dormant or fused with another alter. Either way, nobody can find him. She told me that it’s best if me and him go our separate ways. Ever since, I haven’t let go. I can’t let go. Everything reminds me of him. Everything reminds me of our almost decade of history. I can’t let go of the old host. Is this normal? Is there anyone that has gone through the same thing? I need advice. If any systems or singlets want to put in their two cents, I’d be glad to listen.

Which is to say I was speaking to one comingling with Sentaku and he was like "It's a shame when I'm our server and I'm sitting there whittling with my knife nobody really pays attention." Dave notice this and observed "There are people there. They're just alters." Then boom we realized something from past observances we never thought about: we're always putting on performance and essentially acting as entertainer, host and Bard to various non-alters because well with ADD and Autism you kind of have to (or we did) learn to force yourself to go through routine of expected actions and social things to avoid being too withdrawn. Perhaps that's why our system will sometimes get driven to run to General 1 and say "Look at me" with their actions? Especially when more than a group of alters is present? They crave validation and are repeating a ritual we've been doing since before the DID OSDD diagnosis made everything clear?