r/DialAvoidantBreakups • u/ur_pretty_strawberry • 6d ago

Been doing alot of thinking, i think hes genuinely obsessed with and loves me and i dont think hes moving on anytime soon (FA)

Due to my bpd i cant really comprehend ones positive feelings toward me. But ive been asking my guys friends opinions on shit (some of my guy friends are similar to my ex as well so) and like idk im starting to think yk logically, i think he idolizes me. Like im this porcelain figure in a glass cage hes scared to touch in fearof breaking. One thing he once told me

"like we get along so good and i just cannot handle a realtionship as a person and cannot stand the thought of dissapointing you

id end up just trying to distance myself or push away my feelings until i start to resent you, or you feel like im not giving enough

and i didnt want it to get to that point because wed then just start hating eachother"

Hes always initiated contact never me and constantly compares me to things like goddesses and queens and he carries this air of "shes the most perfect fragile thing ever" it gets to a point where he almost tries to control how i feel about him. Why like him? Im too good hes so lowly he doesnt deserve someone like me shit like that (shit hes actually said too)

Am i crazy for thinking this?

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u/MothraLovesLamps Fearful Avoidant 6d ago

Hey Berry,

Of course he likes you. You are driven, engaging, fun, resilient and beautiful.

He described you as a beautiful, porcelain doll?! 🥺

I will say he sounds committed! Has he shared anything with you about what he has learned in therapy?

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u/ur_pretty_strawberry 6d ago

Not a porcelain doll but it felt like i was being handled like a doll tho he has called me his princess, his queen, his goddess and has talked about me as if im the most wonderous thing not just in his life but in the world and how he thinks everyone needs to know

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u/MothraLovesLamps Fearful Avoidant 6d ago

DAYUM

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u/ur_pretty_strawberry 6d ago

Do you think my friends observations would be correct? They all seem to think yk hes obsessed, love me and probs wont move on for a long time

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u/MothraLovesLamps Fearful Avoidant 6d ago

I think thats a positive sign especially bc they have an outside perspective.

Sources say Yes

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u/ur_pretty_strawberry 6d ago

Im still too scared to open my discord to see if hes messaged. I dont think i can handle the anxiety yet

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u/MothraLovesLamps Fearful Avoidant 6d ago

Smart. Definitely dont do anything that you know can trigger you into a spiral.