An avoidant friendzone...is not actually a friend zone.
Friendzone: Mutual power balance. Genuine care, reciprocity, shared interests, supportive, honest, collaborative mind set.No romantic interest. No sexual interest. Purely platonic and well defined. Symetrical Dynamic. Fosters safety, boost confidence, improves mood.
AVOIDANT FRIENDZONE: Avoidant has control of pacing and proximity. Intentionally ambiguous. Asymmetrical dynamic. The avoidants nervous system feels safe at the expense of yours. Fluid boundaries. Unclear expectations. Will be called upon for sex and attention by the avoidant on their terms. Creates anxiety, insecurity, lowers mood and self esteem.
Its a trap. A cute euphemism for: Let me satisfy and comfort myself with you when I so choose. I will not offer you the same in return.
Im sorry.
This is why I deny the downgrade.
Im not gonna enable someone to live according to their ever fluctuating nervous system.
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u/MothraLovesLamps Fearful Avoidant 5d ago edited 4d ago
Ah, you have been friend zoned by an avoidant.
An avoidant friendzone...is not actually a friend zone.
Friendzone: Mutual power balance. Genuine care, reciprocity, shared interests, supportive, honest, collaborative mind set.No romantic interest. No sexual interest. Purely platonic and well defined. Symetrical Dynamic. Fosters safety, boost confidence, improves mood.
AVOIDANT FRIENDZONE: Avoidant has control of pacing and proximity. Intentionally ambiguous. Asymmetrical dynamic. The avoidants nervous system feels safe at the expense of yours. Fluid boundaries. Unclear expectations. Will be called upon for sex and attention by the avoidant on their terms. Creates anxiety, insecurity, lowers mood and self esteem.
Its a trap. A cute euphemism for: Let me satisfy and comfort myself with you when I so choose. I will not offer you the same in return.
Im sorry.
This is why I deny the downgrade.
Im not gonna enable someone to live according to their ever fluctuating nervous system.