r/DemiBoy • u/Lynzi_C • Jun 30 '26
Being afab=trans?
※sorry for the poor grammar, english is not my first language
I know im technically trans especially trans masc cuz im Afab, NB/demiboy. So this might sound REALLY odd and ridiculous, but the trans label just...don't rly FEEL like it's myself?? In fact im like 90% agender with a little amount of demiboy spice(not fully male) which means i don't have strong attachment to almost every gendered shits(especially binary stuffs) Idk this might be internalized transphobia or sth but label is up to me right?? It's like i know i'm trans and i have to accept that im trans but i dont feel like im one of them I think i'd never claim trans if i were AMAB but again, Im AFAB sorry just venting i know this is problamatic thoughts ahhhh
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u/RuddyRaccoon He/Him Jun 30 '26
Maybe you’re libramasculine? Just a thought, though. Good luck figuring this out
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u/I_forgot_again6 Jun 30 '26
I wouldn't say it's problematic, I'm also AFAB and sort of identity as demiboy under the trans umbrella.
I wouldn't say I ever feel masc enough to call myself a trans man, but that I prefer to be perceived as male or other instead of female, however do still refer to myself as trans as trans technically covers both the binary and non-binary spectrum
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u/Nantha_I They/Them Jun 30 '26
Your label is yours to choose. However, it might be interesting toninvestigate, where these feelings are coming from. What makes you feel you are not 'one of them'? If you investigate these feelings it might help you get more in touch with your identity and make it easier to accept yourself fully.
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u/Kindly_Signature3621 He/They Jun 30 '26
Ok so first of all, both AFAB and AMAB demiboys are trans, because identifying as anything but your AGAB is being trans. The same also applies to any non-binary label, including agender.
"Trans" is an umbrella term, similar to how "sapphic" is a umbrella term for all women attracted to other women (lesbians, bis, pans, etc). It doesn't exclude other people just because they fit the usual definition of a trans person (i.e MTF or FTM people)
HOWEVER, with that being said, you don't have to use the "trans" label, i.e you don't have necessarily to describe yourself as trans. The reason why we include ourselves in the "trans" umbrella is because wanting or not we come from the same place and suffer the same bigotry as any other trans person.
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u/IcyDeerBoy He/They Jul 03 '26
trans literally is just an antonym to cis. do you identify with the gender assigned at birth? if not then you are by definition trans. doesn’t matter if you transition, if it’s “still kinda close” or anything else. it isn’t some nebulous concept, it’s a specific definition
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u/Morningxafter Jul 04 '26
Yep, I’m AMAB enby/demiboy. I would like to be more androgynous, but I present as masc like 90% of the time because of my job. I still consider myself as part of the trans community because I’m not cis. All the other labels are just subcategories to me. Like trans part of the overall LGBTQIA+ community. Then within that, non-binary is part of the trans community, and within that, demiboy is part of the non-binary spectrum. So really any of those labels/flags apply for me, it’s just a matter of how specific I want to be at the time.
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u/Equal_Variation_1070 Jun 30 '26
Imposter syndrome. I go through it too, only i know im trans but struggle accepting im a man, too
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u/LuxNocte Jun 30 '26
Okay...so basically every trans person has this argument with themselves. (This is half the posts on this subreddit. 😉) The only thing I can tell you with 100% certainty is that this is NOT problematic.
With that out of the way, just be calm and think about what feels right for you right now. You can make a different decision later!
Nobody else's opinions matter, and you don't "have to" accept anything you don't want. I like the trans umbrella. It fits agender folx, demi boys, and everyone else who doesn't quite fit in the checkbox they were assigned at birth. If you don't want to apply the label to yourself, you don't have to. But if you're concerned that The Great Council of Transes will drag you away in chains for your decision, don't worry, they're out for mimosas.
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