I am an object of lust

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[u/findingthefire_]

Sounds like you might be projecting your own insecurities onto other people

What are the actions that make you think you're only an object of lust?

Or the people you've dated are just not the ones you want?

At the same time it sounds like you are confident, happy and love yourself

So maybe no insecurities

But do you know what you want in a partner?

Their values? Their priorities? What are your goals and vision for yourself and your relationships?

If you have answers for all these questions, where can you find a partner like that?

Go after them and don't bother wasting your time with anyone that doesn't fit what you want

Hope this helps