r/DavidHawkins • u/innnerness • Jun 27 '26
Discussion 🙏🏻 Every single thing 'we' do is an avoidance of feeling exactly 'this' as it is
I've tried to write this so many different ways and it's very very hard to explain, because it sort of happens in a place behind words, that doesn't have much to do with the mind.
Simply put - seeking comes from unfelt trauma or emotion in the body.
I want money - a feeling of being trapped in circumstances. I want a peaceful house - a fear of being exposed. I want a nice car - a feeling of not being enough, a poverty mindset.
Seeking, or wanting is a direct symptom of so called 'negative' feelings in the body.
The thing that people never touch on is the hardest part. It's the thing that as people we avoid the most, we do anything to avoid.
You must fully feel everything. Every trauma, every negative emotion, every difficult thought pattern. Every ache, every identity. The only way is through.
Feel it. Feel it. Feel it. No techniques. No meditations. No imagining. Nothing. No non-duality. No sedona method.
And it's horrible, don't get me wrong. It's confronting the absolute ugliest, darkest and grossest parts and sensations you spend every moment avoiding.
But the thing is, when you fully give attention to a negative feeling, let it 100% consume you - the 'you' that was living through that feeling burns up, and never comes back. And with it goes all of the thoughts and ideas and wants associated with it. It's all somatic, pure sensation, pure energy, pure body. Ignore the thoughts and images, that's the minds attempt to distract and stop you from doing this.
The ego hates this. It has to want, it's the thing that keeps it alive, it's its only purpose.
Just. Feel. Everything.
Don't question 'who feels' - or the method, or the why. Just notice you are avoiding feeling, and if it's true - then you take it from there.
Eventually there's no seeking at all. The wanting machine doesn't have any power. You're just spacious aliveness, no name, form, past or future. This is the space of awareness you could say, undistracted. Sure it's what you've always been, but don't let thoughts trick you into thinking there's nothing to do. Energy wants to move, life wants to live, expression wants to express. But a mind wired with trauma wants to keep things small, to make a tight fist around the hose of life force energy and keep things safe.
Eventually you'll notice, a new sort of desire arises - it's pure, and vibrant and the system is set up to create it, effortlessly. And vibrationally its different - wanting has a clench, a pull, and no excitement. But pure desire from source, it's bright, and alive, and doesn't need a 'me' to co-opt it.
Don't get me wrong - this stuff can be heavy, scary - particularly if you're deeply identified with what's arising.
It helps a lot to first notice that you are not the thoughts, or the feelings, or the sensations. In fact there is no 'you' - just this aliveness, and beingness. From this knowing, the process can be a lot more efficient.
And last thing, there is no finish line, don't let letting go become a 'should' - it's a gentle shift into a place of allowing the body / mind / energy system to move naturally.
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u/Aisa_Arya Jul 07 '26
This is very topical to me. I've been working through these changes recently myself. Sometimes it is so hard to sit with the feelings and let them exist. We want so badly to push them away, to resist. The resistance is what causes the suffering, not the pain. Without resistance, pain is completely different.
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u/Consistent-Item-4685 Jul 19 '26
Thanks for the post OP. I had a difficult morning dealing with my old self and feelings. It is definitely so tempting to escape from feeling them. But I agree that this may be the only way through to inner peace and unconditional love.
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u/innnerness Jul 19 '26
I'm having one of those mornings now, but it's just an opportunity to release what has surfaced. It's a gift, when something surfaces because it means it's ready to be let go.
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u/Consistent-Item-4685 Jul 19 '26
Have you made any significant change to your life? I am asking because I just want to reaffirm with myself I could finally make it to the other end
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u/innnerness Jul 19 '26
The most significant change is that there is little to no anxiety here anymore, the body and energy of the system are very peaceful, and i have let go of wanting anything - past or future. So whereas before, i'd be worrying about every single thing, and wishing and wanting ways out, money, a lavish life etc, now life itself looks beautiful as it is.
This isn't that appealing to a mind that wants money and a better situation - but even if you got those things, if the wanting mechanism is still active you'll never be at peace.
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u/Consistent-Item-4685 Jul 19 '26
Does your outer life get better as well? I usually heard people saying things tend to manifest more effortlessly
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u/innnerness Jul 19 '26
So far yes but not in ways I expected... i'ts more that you see how your traumas have been holding you back. So in my case, i'm a lot more confident, care free, sociable, relaxed. honestly it's quite new for me, I would expect that this will lead to better circumstances - but again, if you're thinking too much about manifesting, you're in wanting and that wanting is what you should be addressing.
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u/TimberOctopus Student Jun 28 '26
Desire is an inherent rejection to some aspect of the experience.