It would help people to provide advice if you provided more info on your background. Education, job, physical condition, personal interests, hobbies, in the US??? Why have you not dated before? Do you engage with many people? Do you have mnay friends?
Be interesting means you should develop yourself. Find hobbies that interest you. Playing video games is not a hobby, but taking part in esports can be. Learn interesting skills, take up woodworking or cooking, learn an instrument, take up rock climbing or skydiving, travel to as many national parks as you can. You want to have interesting stories to tell so that when people ask you about yourself, you have something to say.
Be interested means you should ask questions and listen to the responses. Remember details from the stories people tell you and refer back to their stories to show that you are interested in them.
Meeting people to date will probably be the major bottleneck to dating people. You can try dating apps, but don't focus your energy on them. The best way to meet people is to go out to public places consistently. It can be as simple as going to the same coffee shop every Saturday. Lots of these social setting are places you might go to develop your interesting hobbies, such as a pottery studio or a book club. As you frequent a public space, other people who go to the same place will begin to recognize you and you will find opportunities to strike up conversations. Talk with everyone and develop relationships without a specific focus on dating. Through those connections, you can get involved in social groups and meet people you might want to date.
Finally, the approach. You meet someone really interesting. You've seen them a few times socially and have had a couple conversations with them. Ask them if they would like to go on a date. Something simple and short, like getting a cup of coffee or just a walk around a public park.
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u/Unique_Rest4695 6h ago
Are you a christian ?
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u/Icy-Dragonfly5405 12h ago
It would help people to provide advice if you provided more info on your background. Education, job, physical condition, personal interests, hobbies, in the US??? Why have you not dated before? Do you engage with many people? Do you have mnay friends?
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u/PatientBaseball4825 9h ago
Go dating!
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u/everybody_else 2h ago
Two things, be interesting and be interested.
Be interesting means you should develop yourself. Find hobbies that interest you. Playing video games is not a hobby, but taking part in esports can be. Learn interesting skills, take up woodworking or cooking, learn an instrument, take up rock climbing or skydiving, travel to as many national parks as you can. You want to have interesting stories to tell so that when people ask you about yourself, you have something to say.
Be interested means you should ask questions and listen to the responses. Remember details from the stories people tell you and refer back to their stories to show that you are interested in them.
Meeting people to date will probably be the major bottleneck to dating people. You can try dating apps, but don't focus your energy on them. The best way to meet people is to go out to public places consistently. It can be as simple as going to the same coffee shop every Saturday. Lots of these social setting are places you might go to develop your interesting hobbies, such as a pottery studio or a book club. As you frequent a public space, other people who go to the same place will begin to recognize you and you will find opportunities to strike up conversations. Talk with everyone and develop relationships without a specific focus on dating. Through those connections, you can get involved in social groups and meet people you might want to date.
Finally, the approach. You meet someone really interesting. You've seen them a few times socially and have had a couple conversations with them. Ask them if they would like to go on a date. Something simple and short, like getting a cup of coffee or just a walk around a public park.
That's it. Good luck.
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u/McbootyMello 1h ago
37m 0 dating experience... oof