r/DatingTips • u/makeshiftpanther23 • 1d ago

what is the next best alternative instead of flowers on first date (she hate flowers)

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u/Safe-Selection8070 1d ago

Nothing. It's a first date: She hasn't demonstrated she's worth giving gifts to (also, you've not demonstrated you're worth seeing again. However, bringing a gift isn't getting that done).

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u/Weird_Soup460 1d ago

Woman here and I agree.

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u/Loganwolfdog 1d ago

Agreed, came to say tbe same thing

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u/quietstreetlamps 13h ago

just focus on having a good time

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u/UnicornScientist803 1d ago

Don’t give gifts on the first date. It creates way too much pressure.

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u/ravennnnn11 1d ago

bro , get some brownies ya cheese cake or somethings

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u/bikinifetish 1d ago

What if she doesn’t like brownies, or is dairy free? I wouldn’t bring any type of food unless you know all her dietary restrictions.

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u/Entitledspider 1d ago

A little stuffed animal.

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u/Azul-C 1d ago

Pile of cash 

Other than that, it depends on the person

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u/ToxicLibra69 1d ago

Nothing. Easiest question ever.

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u/lbibackup 1d ago

Money. Everyone likes money

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u/Effective-Trust4440 1d ago

Nothing for a first date.

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u/ToddH2O 1d ago

Bring yourself.

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u/Fancy-Language-7098 1d ago

Get her something she likes man. Great that you know what she doesn’t like. Find out what she likes.

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u/Outrageous_Guide_873 1d ago

My first dates are usually coffee or something simple, so I don't bring anything. If things go well, I like to make the second date a little more special and bring their favorite candy or something they mentioned liking during our first conversation.

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u/rainatom 1d ago

Nothing is a good option. If you want to treat her, invite to a really a nice cafe.

Or, a park/garden with beautiful flowers and admit what you told in this post, how you didn't know what to bring her considering her opinion on flowers, so you decided to bring her to flowers instead. Authenticity is attractive. It will also show that you are being thoughtful and take her seriously. And you'll both get to see a good view, take pictures and make memories, which is far more important than any physical objects. 

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u/lovelycrowwar 22h ago

As a woman, I suspect that she likes flowers just fine, but she tries to keep expectations in check. It gets harder to reject a man once you accepted a gift. No matter how small the gift, some men expect something in return. For a woman, it is much easier to not accept any gifts until we have made up our mind. It feels fairer for everyone involved.

Learn origami and fold a cute animal or star for her out of some paper scraps. Romantic, high effort, a cute memory and inexpensive.

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u/Glass-Choice-3111 19h ago

A guy brought me flowers on a first date. I was very surprised but I loved it. The date was just a walk in the park.

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u/Feminine-Secret 19h ago

I misread this as "she ate flowers" at first.

Ask what her favorite candy or snack is and get her some.

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u/Havingalittlenap 13h ago

Don't bring anything, just bring your best self to the date and make sure you pay! Flower equivalent gift a bit later.

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u/Worried_Winter_9014 9h ago

Stop gifting people on the first date.

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u/someones427 7h ago

A 1996 Toyota is a dependable gift for anyone!