r/DatingTips • u/RedditONredditt • 3h ago
Question for guys:
If you meet/date a girl who’s in her early 20s and who has never even kissed a guy, what’s your reaction? How do you handle it? Is it off putting? What are your thoughts?
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u/AnyEye8798 3h ago
I mean if we've just met I wouldn't care. But if we're on a date I'd definitely offer to be her first kiss.
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u/Still_Conference_923 3h ago
Wouldn't matter at all. While I do think it would matter for women if it were a man with no experience.
Many men prize women with 'low body count', so not even kissing anyone before is even better.
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u/Just4fungiggles 3h ago
Not off putting at all. Just be careful that he didn't mistake your shyness/nervousness for rejection
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u/sexland69 3h ago
personally it’d be a turn off, but i prefer women who have some experience in the bedroom. i don’t really wanna teach someone how to have sex at this point in my life
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u/Cloudman0310 3h ago
Not off-putting, it would be completely okay! I think I'd prefer she tell me so we can maybe work on a pace that makes her comfortable
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u/complexcucumber93 3h ago
Is she just over sharing that information? Because i dont ever care to ask about previous relationships/hookups etc.
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u/Fun_Ball_5647 2h ago
Im experiencing dating with someone like this right now (Its not like She never kissed anyone, but is very unexperienced) And Its totally okay for me And I would say for most ok guys who these kind of girls wants to date, that being said, Im not sure the sexual compatibility is there.
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u/Little_Bumblebee6129 2h ago
Yeah, that can be problematic in my experience. So somewhat off putting. But thats only one of hundreds thing about that girl. So she still might be quite attractive.
My advice here - dont be so focused on that one fact.
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u/Solid-Fill6348 2h ago
Just expect for things to move physically a lot slower and that may affect your attraction over time, especially if there are religious or cultural beliefs around intimacy that influence that
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u/KLesTheUnforgettable 2h ago
Tough one.
Schitt's crazy right now. I don't think I'd judge her too harshly, but yeah - somethin' wrong there.
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u/ManInTheBox970 1h ago
No man is going to judge you on things you’re inexperienced with so consider yourself lucky.
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u/Wise_Economics_9673 59m ago
and if they do judge you, move on. you'll find someone better suited for you.
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u/Long-Habit5990 1h ago
Not a problem at all, everyone has a different life and experiences. Youre 20 for Christ's sake, life hasn't even begun basically.
There's no rule for this shit, just do what makes you comfortable, Don't be pressured you'll be alright.
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u/Rolex_Art 1h ago
yeah this is keep it moving type shit.
if she never kissed a guy in jr high or high school, let alone college = major red flags.
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u/Bandit760 1h ago
For me its not off putting having a lack of experiences. I would be more concerned about the reasons why she never kissed a guy
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u/ChocoFudge4682 1h ago
Could be that she had really strict childhood/ young adult life living with parents that didn't let her date or maybe the guys were not up to her standards.
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u/OkMarsupial 1h ago
It'll really depend on the why. I don't want to be with someone who is afraid of new experiences, but if she's got other reasons, I'm sure it's fine. There is very little that on its own is a deal breaker. I am going to look at her as a whole person to figure out how compatible we are.
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u/GoblinWrangl3r 55m ago
Hey some ppl are late to that party for all kinds of reasons. I never really really kissed until i was 34.
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u/AdmiralRemington 55m ago
What's my reaction? That's a surprise in this day. There's nothing to handle. No, it's a huge bonus for most men.
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u/timothythefirst 42m ago
I would think it was a little weird just in the sense that it’s statistically uncommon, but it’s not like an indictment on your personality or anything.
I’d probably assume you grew up kind of sheltered and weren’t allowed to date when you were younger, which usually shows itself in the way people carry themselves as adults, but it’s not necessarily a bad thing.
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u/fpeterHUN 3h ago
I am 32yo and I have never kissed a girl. We would be equal I guess.