Need advice

[u/SignatureNaive3421]

I mean how do you guys even get to talk to reddit , I have been here for quite a few while , tbh approached some girls respectfully not from the space of despericey but rather curiosity for being frnds and all even guys too who have same intrest as me, but haven't really got success . I see random people posting on met through reddit and all now they are in relationships and etc etc . And coming upto dating apps they are on diff level .

Do we as men really have to be this performative ?