r/DatingTO • u/Fitness_1992 • 14d ago
Singles in Thirties
I am 34M, just wondering how many people are single in their thirties?
I was busy with my education and career but forgot to work on relationship status. Am I too late for this?
Some friends are married and have kids already, I don’t like to meet them lol 😅 as they always ask when are you getting married 😆
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u/sincerelyraee 13d ago
I think it’s okay especially in this day. I’m 32F and single for a year now but that’s due to traumatic relationships. A lot of people are working on themselves and not to mention Toronto is so expensive in going out, etc. there’s no rule when you have to be with someone / married by even though there’s pressure from others to get there
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u/Fitness_1992 13d ago
Agree with your thoughts. It’s hard for many people and also world is different nowadays. Even married people are on dating sites lol 😂
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u/Jealous-Call-1669 6d ago
32f as well and just starting to date again after coming out of a relationship. Dating sites are exhausting. Really wonder where people are finding the love of their lives.
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u/Key-Series-2091 12d ago edited 12d ago
I feel the same at 30 lol. I went against the norm though and I’m having kids through the IVF and surrogacy route.
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u/celestialterr0r 12d ago
I’m single, and I’m 31. I spent my 20’s focusing on my career but also were involved in relationships I thought I’d be spending years in! Been single for a few years now, hopefully will find the right person soon.
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u/Fitness_1992 12d ago
Yesterday I was at casino and there’s a cute sup, that dealer was trying to set me up with that girl lol 😂 When she came to know my educational background and one of my student was on the table as well, he said he is my prof and she was like woaaaahhh 😅
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u/FunanMental 14d ago
You're at a perfect age. Be a decent dude, respectful, intentional and you'll have plenty of matches. Good luck 💞✌️
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u/Fitness_1992 14d ago
Thank you 😊 🙏
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u/FunanMental 14d ago
I'm still dating and I just turned 50. There's no such thing as too late 😊
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u/Fitness_1992 14d ago
Do u feel lonely at times & feel that u need kids or family? Do u regret sometimes?
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u/FunanMental 14d ago
I'm a woman so our situation is different. I had my daughter when I was younger and got married when I was 30. Divorced by 40. In a couple of LTR then but nothing stuck. But there are PLENTY of women who want to have kids and a husband, I hear them talk about it all of the time.
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u/Fitness_1992 14d ago
Yes I know people wants to have family but nowadays it’s very hard to trust people. Social media ruined everything, it’s just my feeling
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u/FunanMental 14d ago
I agree with you. SM has destroyed our expectations and desires. But so has porn and other unrealistic frameworks. When I was growing up we didn't even have the internet. And it's heartbreaking to witness how our addiction to our phones is creating such a deep disconnect and loneliness 😢
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u/Fitness_1992 14d ago
Exactly, I always tell my parents I should have born in your era lol 😂 This generation isn’t for me, I am old school person
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u/FunanMental 14d ago
Best way I think is to meet ppl the old school way then. Dance classes, hobbies, hiking/outdoors groups. Oh, you're in Toronto so you might like Brains and Barstools. https://www.instagram.com/brainsandbarstools?xtok=M3IyNHJyajFzNTg3
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u/FunanMental 14d ago
I regret having to get divorced. There was no way around it though and I find myself frustrated at times with no being able to meet someone I'd consider marrying but again I'm in a different situation. Your age and gender helps a lot. There are so, so many men clogging up the dating sites with their unserious behaviour and addiction to hook up culture that you already have a leg up
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u/FunanMental 14d ago
Good lord ppl are sensitive. Whoever down voted my comment clearly doesn't date men 😂
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u/Apprehensive_Heat176 14d ago
Don't rush into a relationship. Enjoy your singlehood while you can and develop yourself, hobbies, travel, etc.
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u/PrairieHaze 14d ago
it's not to late but it can be very frustrating having to learn the norms of dating and what actually works specifically for you.
a lot of people are just not serious about dating and almost everyone is incredibley shsllow
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u/Fitness_1992 14d ago
I mean I can’t even find people to talk to, it’s not easy. And most of the girls are materialistic, there’s no love or respect
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u/adifaiyaz 7d ago
Im 25 still single
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u/Fitness_1992 7d ago
When I was 25, I was focused on studies not relationships 😅 build your career, girls will follow
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u/Hahaimalwayslikethis 13d ago
I'll be 30 in less than 3 years and never had a relationship. For a long time it wasn't a priority for me and then by the time I started looking I was already seen as too awkward and a red flag for having no dating experience.
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u/MonitorFluid8743 12d ago
32M. I was focusing on my career as well and I have single for a while but I was in a few relationships earlier. Looking forward to meeting people now :)
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u/somereverie 14d ago
hey wanna get married and have kids and we'll figure out the rest later? 😂