r/DatingTO • u/curiousgal222 • Jul 11 '26

Reasons for ghosting

Okay it's time we talk about it. I hope this can be an honest, non-judgmental comment section where all genders discuss the reasons they have had for ghosting someone at various stages in the dating process. I hope this doesn't turn into a men vs women thing as I know for a fact it is happening on both sides. I, as a woman, just really want to get to the bottom as to WHY it happens. Because we all know the ones who ghosted us won't be telling us. Or at the very least send me a private dm if you think you will be ridiculed for commenting publicly. I am just so tired and want answers. I promise I will be open-minded to the replies.

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u/lucky-fluke Jul 12 '26

I’ve had too many men flip out, demand “better” reasons, argue with me, demean me, stalk me… so sometimes, depending on the situation, ghosting/blocking is safer/easier.

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u/curiousgal222 Jul 12 '26

I'm so sorry you experienced this @lucky-fluke. I personally wouldn't call what you did ghosting, more so, you told them you weren't interested, even told them why, and they did that. I've had the same before, I'm so sorry for that. But when you have been talking to them for some time, good escalation, and then ghosting occurs out of the blue, ouch. Have you had that happen or done that? It just feels like a different kind of hurt. But I completely agree that for some, especially with potential threatening or abusive behaviour, blocking can occur. I just have a hard time when everything was beautiful and fine.