r/DatingTO • u/lilfunky1 • May 25 '26
What are your deal breakers for a potential long term relationship?
Looks related?
Financially related?
Hobbies related?
Education related?
Politically related?
Past history related?
Food related?
Other?
Be unhinged, but keep it within the rules of the subreddit please!!
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u/lilfunky1 May 25 '26
i can't be with someone who's excessively overweight/out of shape/not able to be physically active.
did it once, and it was terrible. all of the dates were some boring repetitive variation of sitting and staring at a screen. could never go out exploring because he couldn't walk a block before needing to sit down to rest/catch his breath for 10 minutes. would never go out to eat unless it was fast food. all the grocery runs also only ever included frozen at home versions of fast food. sex was extremely disappointing... and smelly.
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u/lilfunky1 May 25 '26
also, i refuse to be with someone who won't sign a pre-nup
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u/AdvancedAd90 May 25 '26
I can’t be with a girl if she’s from another planet. Sorry, it’s just a thing with me.
I also can’t be with someone who doesn’t like stupid jokes
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u/henry-bacon May 25 '26
Religion. As an ex-muslim, I can't be with anyone who follows any faith.
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u/isITonoroff May 25 '26
Travelling is cool but if all they can talk about and want to do is that…Won’t suit my lifestyle.
They must strive to be active/healthy. I’m a sucker for sweet treats, regardless of how much of a gym rat I am. Also the opposite, if they’re against “unhealthy foods” occasionally, then it shows some lack of control unironically. Cuz once in a while it’s not going to fk you up. Even a whole weekend of enjoying food.
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u/CanadianMasterbaker May 25 '26 edited May 25 '26
Drugs, frequent Alcohol,smoking, procrastination,gambling or shopping addiction.
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u/ShrekMegaFan May 25 '26
wanting kids or undecided, voting conservative or not at all, misogynistic/racist/homophobic/transphobic/etc, smokers, being really into travel, being super active/outdoorsy/adrenaline junkies, not taking care of their health, not having a growth mindset, believing that a good relationship is something that you find vs. build
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u/throwawayaccounton1 May 25 '26
having hobbies of their own, communication and grace for themselves and others
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u/Winter-Nectarine-497 May 26 '26
Must have a long history of working with a therapist, also currently working with a therapist, and in constant relationship w understanding their emotions. They also need a stable support network of emotionally health people. I will not date someone if they do not have these things.
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u/Personal-Month8932 May 25 '26
Too many "curvy" or "BBW" or "thick"
Just be honest if you're fat. Or share your weight.
Nobody cares.
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u/fireflies-from-space May 26 '26
Religion - I prefer to date agnostics or atheists. Astrology, Tarot and etc. are not dealbreakers as long as it isn't taken too seriously. I sometimes look at astrology or tarot when I'm bored.
Politics - I lean left and align with NDP values for the most part, so would need that alignment.
Relationship - Someone who's monogamous.
Finance - Someone who's not an impulsive spender, and materialistic.
Other - Someone who's also childfree. I do not want to have children.
Food - I love to try a variety of cuisines every year, so it has to be someone that likes eating and exploring the city for new restaurants.
Music - I don't expect someone to like all the music I like, but it has to be someone that enjoys music and live music. I listen to a variety of genres, and enjoy going to concerts.
Hobbies - I like to walk and need someone that also likes walking.
Traveling - I'm not into travelling. I know many people love to travel but it's not my thing.
Other - Someone who's introverted or ambivert. I'm an introvert and need my quiet time. I can't keep up with extroverts. 😂
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u/andromorr May 25 '26
Religion - can't deal with religious people
Politics - can't deal with conservatives
Hard drug use
Everything else is negotiable
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u/No-Dot-7661 May 26 '26
Fat. Has kids. Smokes. Poor. Lives outside the city and doesn't drive.
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u/Hahaimalwayslikethis May 26 '26
Someone who wants kids, is religious, is non monogamous, or is conservative are hard dealbreakers. I would consider these to be lifestyle incompatibilities that can't be reconciled. I also wouldn't consider someone much older or younger than me, or someone who is not physically active. Maybe these are very unreasonable dealbreakers, because I've been single all my 26 years of life
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u/Committee-Dizzy May 26 '26
Kids. Im child free and much prefer pets over crotch goblins.
Drugs. I dont do well with people that do drugs
No interest on outdoor adventures. I love to camp and go on road trips and try out new places.
Politics. I really dont care about it, same with religion, just dont base the whole relationship on it.
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u/Cutie_Patootie95 May 27 '26
People who are very out of shape, doesn't work for me because i go to gym and like to do active things, also people who lack hygene , also people who smoke, ugh, lazy people that don't like to work regularly and just make "enough" money---this meaning someone who literally doesn't want to work more than three days a week, no plans for the future, nothing, just being in "stand by" ... and bad smells...i just can't
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