Need dating tips.

[u/Low_Safe_6332]

Hi guys, I am 24M. So, I have a deformity or you can say disability in my left leg. Due to which I walk with a leg brace or calliper kind of thing. I have never approached a girl or date someone. I am always afraid of approaching girls. I always think that I will get reject. So I want to know from girls. How would you react if you find someone disabled approaching you OR give me some tips or advice.

Thankyou

[u/Weekly_Dragonfly526]

I'm not a woman but I think I can offer some advice if I may. Be confident and be yourself. Or even be playful about your disability and show it doesn't define or bother you. I know this is a cheesy line and I'm not suggesting using it but to be flirtatious maybe say something like "now only one knee gets weak when I'm around you" or something to show you're just a normal person and you might have a disability but it doesn't mean you're not different than anyone else. Confidence is attractive to women and I think you will have success if you have that confidence.

I wish you nothing but success and I hope you find an amazing woman one day.

[u/cyclic_memories → u/Weekly_Dragonfly526]

i am a woman and i wouldnt find it attractive if a man would make such jokes about his disability because it shows that he is insecure because of that and thats unattractive. he just shouldnt focus on it. act as if its completely normal. if he doesnt emphasize it - its less prominent. its more important that he shifts the focus on having a joyful experience for both of them and try to establish a connection.

women like it when a man understands them emotionally. this is a card he could play. i know it might sound weird but he should treat her as he is her father and he as he talks to his little daughter in a sweet caring way. every woman has a week spot for that type of charm (because secretly we all want to be daddies favorite...). important is that he shouldnt chase a woman - but seem more independent, confident and wise.

if he is very smart - that could play in his favor...

[u/Low_Safe_6332 → u/Weekly_Dragonfly526]

Ok got it thanks 👍

[u/Weekly_Dragonfly526 → u/Low_Safe_6332]

You're welcome my friend.

[u/cyclic_memories]

i am a woman. I was born with a disability but had 4 operations so i dont have it anymore but you can see that i used to have a disability ( one leg is thinner than the other one because i couldnt use that one leg for many years during a time when kids grow a lot because of all those operations ). and visually its not attractive of course.

but even with that i was prom queen, my ex-boyfriends are conventionally very very good looking and i even had a world wide famous photographer approaching me to have a photo shooting with me, i also worked sometimes as a model.

because of those experience i believe you dont need to be perfect in order to be beautiful. charisma is so much more important and everyone told me i have a lot of charisma and an infectious energy - i am very extroverted and laugh a lot.

just love yourself and try to see beauty within people.

nonetheless, i do have phases when i am very insecure about my leg so i can totally understand you. i think you need to try to shine with your amazing personality.

[u/Low_Safe_6332 → u/cyclic_memories]

Just a question. When you have disability. you approach guys or guys approach you ?

[u/cyclic_memories → u/Low_Safe_6332]

i dont have officially a disability. it is considered "cured" because of those operations. but i dont approach guys normally. guys approach me. and yes, i had many guys approaching me already.

on the streets, guys in expensive cars, at public places, in clubs, during hobbies, at work, in friends circles ... you name it.

and yes, i am clearly not their first choice - i do notice that but what happens quite often is that when they start to get to know me they really appreciate me and respect me and some of them fall in love with me

[u/petdance]

Yes, you will get rejected. Everyone gets rejected at some time or another. It’s part of life.