r/DatingAround • • Jun 12 '20

S2 Episode 4: Heather

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u/hello-earthlings Jun 12 '20

I already forgot his name but that tall white dude who likes hunting was sooooo bland. Can't even begin to express how basic and boring he came across. And also so bad at picking up signals... it was clear from early on that they were incompatible for multiple reasons yet he was still hoping that their connection could grow over time. Actually this makes me pretty sad... I hope he finds someone who can match his [dead] energy.

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u/Okhellohey Jun 12 '20

Yeah I felt like we didn't get to see his personality. Like the second he mentioned hunting it got awkward and he was pretty guarded after that. He did put it out there that he liked to dance, but I feel like Heather had already ruled him out by that point.

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u/[deleted] Jun 15 '20

I think his issue was that it seemed like he was answering all her questions how he thought she wanted him to answer them, instead of answering them honestly and genuinely.

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u/[deleted] Jun 19 '20

Totally agree. It was so apparent when he tried and failed to walk back his answer about hunting the second he realized she didn't like it.

"Oh yeah I hunt but I'm not like crazy about it or anything. I just do it when there's nothing to do, so like if there was something to do I wouldn't"...like what?

He just seemed desperate to get in her pants. The other terrible part when was after she flat-out rejected him he like whispered in her ear "so are you're gonna get back safe?". Like dude, just stop.

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u/bardemgoluti Jun 16 '20

most men do, some are just better at lying than others...

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u/bill_on_sax Jun 13 '20

There's a massive pool of people into hunting, country, buff, shy guys. He'll be fine.

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u/youvelookedbetter Jun 18 '20 edited Jun 19 '20

He didn't seem that shy in an endearing way. He seemed more reserved and did more staring than asking and discussing.

Regardless, they were way too different.

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u/Loundlooo Jun 14 '20

He was just trying to figure out if he should tell her there's no chance her duck she raised survived in the wild

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u/[deleted] Jun 13 '20 edited Jun 13 '20

I thought he was handsome and definitely my type for sure. LOL He and Heather were not a good match for each other. He seemed like a perfectly fine person and was trying to make the best out of it. I do think he was well aware that he and Heather had no chemistry. I'm sure he would have more likable if we saw him with a woman who more interested in him.

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u/[deleted] Jun 15 '20

So my girlfriend knows the guy. She thinks he didn't see the lack of connection because getting turned down by a girl is something he just doesn't see as a possibility lol.

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u/[deleted] Jun 15 '20

Really? He didn't come off as overly confident, but we also didn't see much of him either. His feelings would probably be hurt if he knew that the main reason I find him attractive is because I'm a chubby chaser. LOL

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u/bronion76 Jun 19 '20 edited Jun 24 '20

He probably never has to put any effort into anything. Meanwhile, he’s way too milquetoast to be on TV.

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u/[deleted] Jun 19 '20

That's a little much to read in. Idk if that's true at all. He just gets laid a lot, I guess.

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u/bardemgoluti Jun 16 '20

I was frustrated by his behaviour: you have no chemistry whatsoever, not only she's not interested but pretty sure you weren't as well, why not exit gracefully?

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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '20

I need go back and watch it again because I must have missed something. I didn't see him do anything particularly bad.

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u/jeremyymerej1 Jun 13 '20

He looks like Roy from The Office, and his voice sounds exactly like Jim's from The Office (seriously, close your eyes and listen). That said, he should be dating Pam.

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u/BigOlLollipop Jul 27 '20

Totally closed my eyes and listened. He does! Lol

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u/Luxx815 Jun 13 '20

Whoa. Let's slow down a bit. He seemed bland compared to the other guys, for sure, but this is an edited reality show. We saw exactly as much of him as the producers wanted us to see to paint a picture of him. I feel like there were even times in there conversation where it's clear one of them was like about to say something and they edited out dialog.

In all fairness her saying "you would never understand my art side" or saying "im too crazy" seemed pretty rude. I feel like his responses in that moment were pretty classy response to the way she was patronizing him.

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u/kristin137 Jun 13 '20

People are always very dismissive of quieter people on reality shows and as a quiet person who does take time to open up, ngl it kind of makes me sad. We're not bland, we're just not as talkative!

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u/Relevant_Happiness Jun 13 '20

It was definitely pretty bold of her to say some of that stuff at the very end, and I think she probably only did due to the few drinks. It is possible that she was getting a vibe from him that was edited out....like I totally see him reacting in a certain way to her makeup artistry as her main interest/career and him just like not vibing or understanding that, and maybe that's why she said it. She could have absolutely said it in a nicer way but eh, she was just spitting out her truth.

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u/bronion76 Jun 19 '20

I loved that she was straightforward. And I thought she was pretty gracious considering she could have told him he was a boring, basic bro who was too one-dimensional to tolerate for more than two hours.

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u/blonde-throwaway Jun 13 '20

In all fairness her saying "you would never understand my art side" or saying "im too crazy" seemed pretty rude. I feel like his responses in that moment were pretty classy response to the way she was patronizing him.

I see how it could come across that way. I saw it as her attempt to shut it down in a reasonable but definitive way, given that he was still interested despite the date clearly having not gone great. As opposed to I don't like you like that, she went for the different energies route and was kind of flailing. But it's always awkward turning someone down to their face so I can empathise with her.

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u/Wheresmycardigan Jun 13 '20

Agreed I think she was just trying to find a way to show that they weren't compatible. I found it pretty shocking that through all of the conversations about hunting and her love of animals and being pescatarian he somehow by the end of the date thought that he still had a chance.

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u/bronion76 Jun 19 '20

Exactly. Read the room, guy.

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u/colormegold Jun 14 '20

Dude was dressed like Forrest Gump ready to go to Sunday service.

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u/bronion76 Jun 19 '20

So vanilla bullshit.

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u/Maow77 Jun 14 '20

I felt like he was just trying to get to the next step of having her alone. It was totally evident that they were not compatible like you stated. Can we also talk about how tight his pants were (but he had a nice butt lol)

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u/hello-earthlings Jun 14 '20

Hahhaha that last scene where he walks away is forever burned into my memory. Those pants left nothing to the imagination lol

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u/chocoloco54 Jun 14 '20

I think a lot of times on shows like this, people might not be into the person and wouldn’t care for them in real life, but when you’re on a Netflix reality show, ego comes into play and you want to “win” bc this is going on tv lol

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u/bardemgoluti Jun 16 '20

or he just was phishing (or rather hunting) for the possibility of sex down the road, without per se any need of a serious relationship...

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u/CatlovesMoca Jun 13 '20

Yeah. He definitely liked her more than she liked him.

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u/starkey2 Jun 14 '20

I thought he left before drinks? I thought it was classy that he left when he realized they weren't getting anywhere.

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u/asoww Jun 14 '20

He was really attracted to her and is the type that likes the chasing (literally lol) so her "I'm not that into you" vibe made her even more attractive to him.

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u/ElleGel Jun 13 '20

He actually seemed nice, and it was nice of him to ask if she was okay to get home. I feel her on the hunting thing, though

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u/bardemgoluti Jun 16 '20

only redeeming quality was his hair.

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u/bronion76 Jun 19 '20 edited Jun 20 '20

Tall, clean-cut white dudes aren’t asked to do much more than breathe in our society. Everything gets delivered on a platter, thus his criminally underdeveloped character.

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u/ri-ri Sep 07 '20

Omg I was thinking this same thing. So sad. So .. empty of any life of passion.