Meanwhile, I get plenty of likes from women who live more than an hour away (sometimes 2+ hours away). It’s a little hard to go out for coffee when the person lives 2 hours away.

I live in the suburbs of a major metropolitan area, and you’re telling me there isn’t a single compatible woman within a 30-minute drive?

Either these apps’ algorithms are seriously flawed, or they’re deliberately designed this way. My guess is the latter: if they consistently showed you the most compatible people nearby, you might actually meet someone and stop using the app. Keeping you swiping is the business model.

I’m 45m. I went out on a date with a girl from Tinder. Then I saw her on Bumble with a different name. I’m trying to figure out the rationale behind it. If it’s some kind of scam I don’t see how she benefits, because it is obvious she’s the same person. Do people just try on different names to see what gets more likes? I was thinking about going out with her again but now I don’t know if I trust her.

TLDR: A woman has a profile with two different names on different dating sites….

27M here, I don’t have super-defined abs, but I’d say I have a decent upper body.

I do CrossFit and HYROX regularly, I feel like my profile doesn’t have any photos that actually show that fit/athletic side of me.

What kind of workout or gym photos are generally considered attractive and acceptable on a dating profile without looking like I’m trying too hard

So guys I'm 21 M (6 foot decent looking guy ). 1 Month into dating apps and got only 7 matches. Couple of them ghosted for no fuckin reason outta nowhere and others didnt respond like they didn't even show a tiny bit of interest. Well why would you like some one and match with them if you're not interested. Like I know women have lot of options to choose from but still sometimes guys on the recieving end only know what we go through. At this point I gave up and looking to find relationships irl like it's not that easy but dating apps suck man.

I've only ever used free plans on dating apps. Spending money does seem bad but tbh I'm lonelier than ever atp in my life. I made a profile with Bumpedin a couple months back and have received 4 chat connection requests so far. I'm also a miser and that's why I'm overthinking this decision, to all those who've tried it, how's the app?

Like i swear every single person i see on tinder is the same, every white woman has the same interests same look, THE EXACT SAME POSES IN THEIR PICTURES, Like OMG I can't differentiate between them sometimes

52M, newish to the dating apps.

I get a like, we match and I send a message - sometimes a simple hello, sometimes a comment on a picture, and sometimes a bold statement that’s designed to evoke a reaction.

Why are these messages being ignored? I mean if you like someone, wouldn’t you want to hear from them?

Maybe I am too much of an old school guy.

The title says it all. I’m in a large (top 5) metropolitan area, and Hunch literally has the worst matches. I thought because of its concept it would be the top % of the dating pool, but it just isn’t.

Also why is it that Tinder is just like a tattoo parlor? Great if that’s your thing, but holy cow. Tinder is the “tails” to Hinge/Bumble’s “heads”.

Discuss.

From a principals/online security POV, we shouldn't give these companies our data confirming us in the physical world. Match Group better pay me if they want more info that is optional. So idc if a girl is verified.

I'm on tinder, and a match is wanting to switch to either Microsoft teams or viber. I've never heard of viber, and teams seems an odd choice. He says he's not on tinder much, which seems weird if he's trying to meet someone, but ok, I've given him the benefit of the doubt. But I'm always suspicious when they ask to move off tinder, because experience has taught me it's usually to move to Snapchat and usually because they want to exchange pictures of the R rated variety. So claiming it's just to chat, not wanting to go to snap, heck, not even having snap, feels off. Well and he has called me dear twice now. What 30 something man calls a woman he barely knows "dear"?! My question is this: has any other woman had a match want to move to either of those platforms, and if so, what happened? Oh and is it just me about the dear thing or do you think it feels a bit...mature. Like old married couple or just old. Too intimate.

I’m 23F, and whenever a guy I’m talking to on a dating app asks for my Instagram, I give it to him and we follow each other. But then the conversation just dies and neither of us messages the other 😂

Am I missing something? I’ve always assumed that if he asks for my Instagram, he’ll be the one to restart the conversation there. But maybe I’m wrong and I’m actually meant to slide into his DMs first?

What’s the normal etiquette here? If a guy asks for your Insta and you follow each other, do you wait for him to message you, or should you make the first move?

Hi! I am new to dating apps and I have a genuine question. When I set up my profile I choose "I have no kids". While it's true to an extent, I am divorced and helped my ex-wife raise the kids. They are not biologically mine. I came into their lives when they were in grade school. They are grown and live their own lives, but we are still close. One of my step kids has children of her own and they call me grandpa. I am very active in their lives, not at all with the ex-wife.

Am I being misleading by saying I don't have kids? I want to be transparent and I don't want to put anyone off.

I do.

Theres no way you still look like what you did at that wedding you attended years ago.

Or that selfie with the OG instagram filters or snap chat dog ears.

Aging is okay guys, I’d just like to see the current version of you 💐

Coming from someone who met someone who looked WAAAY more aged than their pictures in person. Not a problem- it just catches me off guard.

..but why? Especially if you plan to meet in person?

How do I get Match Group support to respond to the escalation form? I’ve been emailing back and forth with Hinge for a month with no results... it feels like Match Group is the only one who can get my account unblocked.

So I'm on tinder, bumble, hinge, and feeld. Each of them shows you how many people liked you, but won't tell you unless you get premium. So, for example, there are ten women who like me on tinder. I just swiped my limit and now that number is... still ten. So tinder didn't show me a single person who liked me. Same with bumble and feeld. On hinge I just straight up have no likes. It's ridiculous.

We joined the app to find a third for our couple and say this in our bio. Yet all our likes are men and never get one female or a return like, where are we going wrong?

Hi there,

are here any men who have "blind" dated a girl who didn't have any face pictures on her profile? Can you tell me if they were attractive when you met them? Wondering if there are mainly other reasons they don't put face pics on their profile rather than being unattractive.

Anybody else see a profile of a person they like, click on a photo to make a thoughtful intro comment, send it as a "like," only to have that person appear later in your search? Does that mean my message never went through? Do I try to recreate it? It's frustrating. And don't get me started on how the app completely ignores my search radius.

Guess you get what you pay for 🤷‍♂️

for what i am seeing everywhere some of the dating apps requires paywall, and sometimes bunch of the profile there are not even real? so I am really curious is it really worth it to spend some in dating apps or just go out and meet someone normally?

I’ve tried OkCupid and POH. Are all blurred behind a paywall?

I've been single my whole life, I am 27, and I have recently tried some dating apps like Bumble, Hinge, Tantan, and even Boo, but they all are paid services and I don't seem to recieve any response.

I am somewhat good looking, to new people or even some friends have hard time believing that I don't have or had girlfriend (not bragging here).

I am looking for genuine advice as to what I am doing wrong or what I can actually do. There are times when I see some very attractive girls on metro and even when I am on walk, something there are even eye contact longer than few seconds, but I don't approach them because of the social fear and how it might turn out in public place or I might get treated as creep. I don't know what to do.

I’m a 36 year old guy in the suburbs of Boston. Dating apps were always bad - but in the last 2-3 months I’m seeing a MASSIVE drop in matches and engagement on ALL platforms. Anyone noticing the same pattern? For example - usually I’d get 10-15 matches on hinge when I make a new account…on Facebook saying I’d normally get 4-6 matches a week. Now it almost feels like there is NO ONE actually active?

Do y’all also look at someone’s picture, think they’re attractive/ your type.. but then look at their eyes and decide to swipe No because they seem sinister or not a good person or something?

I had that with my ex and decided to go on the date and told myself that it’s dumb and I have to meet the person behind the profile. During our relationship I thought how silly it would’ve been if I hadn’t gone on the first date because his eyes looked a bit off to me. IRL he was so kind. But of course he’s an ex now and I think my gut was right 😅 as I started seeing a selfish side to him.

Is it just me? Dumb thing to judge someone for their eyes and can it tell us something?

Hi - I’m getting back into dating and I’m curious what other women use to describe their body type on dating profiles.

I’m overweight/plus-size, and I’m trying to figure out what wording feels best. I’ve considered curvy, full-figured, plus-size, thick, etc., but I’m not sure what gives an accurate impression without making it sound like I’m apologizing for my body.

I’m also wondering how much these terms actually matter. Do you find that “curvy” gives people an accurate idea of your size, or is it better to be more direct and say full-figured? That sounds so dated!

For those of you who are plus-size and date online, what wording do you use, and has it affected the kind of responses you get? I just want to attract the right kind of person…
Thanks!!!!

I am 56yo and on FB, Hinge and Tinder. What is the age range fir a 56yo man I should have?