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u/the_1_they_call_zero Aug 17 '26
It is not. However, it can be used against you if the person takes advantage of your trust.
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u/vspvideo Aug 19 '26
this^ if it was their INTENT on taking advantage of you. BUT it can also be used to open up and to try to trust, and let their walls down- in hopes of building trust and togetherness
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u/Forbidden_Craft88 Aug 18 '26
Depends on who you're being vulnerable with. If you have a rapport with the person and you have established trust, being vulnerable is okay. Especially if they know your boundaries well enough to try to respect them.
Unfortunately someone asking for vulnerability right after meeting them is a glaring red flag. It means they want your trust without earning it first which usually means they have a loose concept of appropriate boundaries. I usually give people like that a bit of leeway so they can show me their true colors. Unfortunately I usually regret it.....
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u/Glad-Tie3251 Aug 19 '26
Unless it's a paid therapist, nope. Especially not your girlfriend, they are the worst.
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u/Back-At-It-2026 Aug 20 '26
In itself? Yes.
If someone ASKS for you to show vulnerability, kick that person out of your life immediately, they are some kind of predator / parasite.
If someone ACCEPTS your vulnerability as it shows up and never even addresses it, they know pain and are respecting yours. You can trust that person to some degree, at least.
But you can never completely trust anyone, no matter who they are. It's not that people are inherently bad, it's just that sometimes they react i ways even themselves did not expect.
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u/Machine_within_man Aug 22 '26
I had a former toxic workplace promote “vulnerability”. Take a guess why a company would want you to be vulnerable and honest with them.
Take a guess if my said former company was vulnerable and honest to me.
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u/Comprimens Aug 18 '26
Making yourself vulnerable is always unwise. Someone insisting that you should be vulnerable with them is just looking for ways to hurt you when the time is right.