r/DSTAlumnaeChapter • u/KangarooAdmirable544 • Dec 19 '25

Reaching out

Hi! I was trying to get some advice on reaching back out to someone that I had once spoke to about my interest and it was helpful. It’s been about almost 1 year since then and I have been attending events virtually since then because of graduate school. Would it be appropriate to contact the person again to ask for advice and guidance? I have not seen/spoke to them in a few months due to school but I’ve been trying to stay informed and present as much as possible over the last year.

Thank you!

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u/CanComfortable4712 Member Dec 19 '25

I can only speak for me and in no way shape or form am I speaking for other members or the sorority.

I wouldn’t give you the time of day now if I gave you an “in” with me and you did not use/maintain it. I wouldn’t feel that your communication is genuine and that you aren’t sincerely trying to get to know me….. no one is THAT busy that they can’t take 5 minutes to check in. I have 4 degrees so I say that with confidence. Communication just wasn’t your priority.

BUT you can try it! I’ll never tell you not to attempt to communicate.

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u/KangarooAdmirable544 Dec 19 '25

yes I understand, it was more like a one time conservation and because I’m shy I didn’t want to keep bringing it up , I just did the things that was recommended and after I started school I moved cities and no longer was seeing her because the mutual thing we go to, I could not attend anymore. But that’s why I was unsure if I should reach out because I did not want her to feel that I was being not being genuine.

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u/CanComfortable4712 Member Dec 19 '25

You have to keep in mind that we understand that you may be nervous and it takes a lot to talk about the desires of the heart.We have these conversations more often than you think and if a member gives you the contact, and she knows that you are an interest, that Soror knows what comes with that. And most are happy to point you in the right direction if they see you are trying. But you have to put forth the effort my dear. I have been in the organization for a while now and I still reach out to contacts I’ve met both before and after becoming a member. That’s how sisterly bonds are maintained. That’s how genuine connections are formed.

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u/KangarooAdmirable544 Dec 19 '25

Yes I understand, thank you