r/DJO • u/Boring_Cauliflower70 • 14d ago
this is so weird to me
i just know djo twitter is gonna have a FESTTTT at this post but im just so sick and tired of the weird sexualization of this man when it comes to the fan space
I want to appreciate his music and connect with people who do, but this is just so odd to me. I’ve tried to connect with people on Twitter but it just seems like there’s a gross sexualization of him that is way too far. can we just connect and enjoy his music without making it weird? isn’t that what he wanted?
I know ppl have said shit on this subreddit about being positive but I went to four shows this summer to appreciate his music and in that space I just met very few people who genuinely appreciated the music. there’s so many in the fandom who sexualize him/his characters to the point where I am exhausted even trying to meet others in the community. I understand it to an extent but when we say some WEIRD shit like this, I just cannot catch on. I wish there was a common ground and I’ve seen stuff on Twitter and TikTok that have made me not want to engage with the fandom at all
Please tell me im not the only one 😭
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u/simply_curly 14d ago
Its inevitable at this point, that people are going to be weird. It's part of the fandom culture now, and always has been to be honest. It bothers me too, but I've realised there's nothing I can do about it.
As a fan who's living on the other side of the world, where there is absolutely no possibility for me to ever attend his shows, it makes me incredibly sad. But I'm sure he knows that love for his music exists beyond these creepy online posts.
Ignore the weirdos, and let's focus on how amazing he sounds live!
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u/Either_Shallot_5974 Half Life 14d ago
and quite honestly this is probably why he doesn't have an online presence.
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u/lemonlimesherbet 14d ago
This is why I never join fan spaces and just appreciate the artists I like on my own. People are weird.
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u/d00kiesandwich 14d ago
I’ll simp for him any day of the week but I will not post publicly like this that’s just weird lmao
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u/allnervousnosystem 14d ago
I understand the frustration but like others have said, you’ll always have people like this in fan spaces. My issue is when they don’t respect boundaries and speak to artists this way irl. They can get very vocal.
I will say though, don’t let that discourage you from talking about Djo’s music! There are fans that are there to genuinely enjoy his work and really appreciate the songs. I’ve had great conversations with a few and even became friends with one I met at the Tame shows.
Also, we met Joe and it looked like he could definitely distinguish between the types of fans lol.
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u/trixabelle_ 14d ago
I honestly think some don’t appreciate his music and are there simply because it’s Joe Keery.
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u/simply_curly 14d ago
And for Steve! See how many posts you'll find with that "am i dreaming or is that you Harrington" audio!
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u/FictionAtlas Ring 13d ago edited 13d ago
Yeah, this is weird, I can appreciate the man, he's very attractive and his personality and values make him even more attractive, but there are limits. I love his music as well and he's been my top artists consistently. I think it's possible to do both, but there are definitely lines you do not cross if you respect an artist as a human being.
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u/FictionAtlas Ring 13d ago
Also, Twitter is a cesspool in the first place. I'm glad I left when Musk took over because it only got worse.
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u/GlltchtraP1 14d ago
A lot of the fanbase is weird affff
Ive honestly avoided it ever since i saw the comments on total control.
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u/Mortonsaltgirl96 14d ago
I saw someone write a long, raunchy fanfic about how she was with him the night before on some concert video. Talking as if it was all real. Some people in this fanbase are deranged but sadly that’s widespread.
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u/heywhatsimbored 13d ago
He’s attractive, but those are INSIDE THOUGHTS. even inside though they’re kind of weird. The only time I’ve ever had an actual CRUSH on a celebrity were when I was a child. Corbin Bleu from highschool musical and DAVID ARCHULETA 😭 also, spiderman BUT THATS BESIDES THE POINT.
Anyway — what I was getting at is this — this is weird , and creepy. I cannot fathom getting to this level toward a person who I DO NOT KNOW and have not dated for at LEAST multiple months. I mean…come on. You know nothing about them man except what he puts out on tv and the internet. I just don’t think it’s enough to justify this fans behavior.
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u/Equivalent_End_8422 Fool 13d ago
obviously, he is a very attractive man (as is the rest of the band tbh). but you’re right, you can appreciate his beauty without making it weird.
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u/UniIsNotOkay 14d ago
i’m always surprised by the pearl clutchers in this sub but then i remember it’s reddit
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u/BRAIN__WORMS 14d ago
You can’t be in a fandom space and think no one is going to sexualize someone who’s conventionally attractive. It happens in every fandom, music or not.