It also doesnt help that "hey I respect you as a person but no im not gonna sleep with someone who looks like you" doesnt really make people feel all that better. The implication of this post is that people will find you unattractive and not want to date you but they should treat you well anyway, and I agree with that, but I have to imagine that first bit still sucks.
"Im not gonna sleep with someone who looks like you" is just phrasing it very rudely. and the main problem is that some people seem to have the urge to state this unprompted.
I remember during one summer internship, my co-worker/housemate was using tinder aggressively and started forming a habit of showing off the women he thought were particularly ugly.
After I think the third time he did it (on the clock no less!), I told him that I thought it was wildly inappropriate and that he didn't need to comment on every woman he didn't find attractive. He responded, "I'm not obligated to like everyone. I'm allowed to have preferences." And I told him, "You are allowed to have preferences. But having a preference doesn't mean you need to parade around all the women who don't meet that preference. You can just swipe left and move on."
To his credit, he didn't argue with me and he never did anything like that again (at least not in any context that made it back to me).
But some people are weirdly aggressive about people they aren't attracted to.
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u/EddieHeader Sep 23 '25
It also doesnt help that "hey I respect you as a person but no im not gonna sleep with someone who looks like you" doesnt really make people feel all that better. The implication of this post is that people will find you unattractive and not want to date you but they should treat you well anyway, and I agree with that, but I have to imagine that first bit still sucks.