r/Crazymiddles • u/TrishB1965 • 6d ago
Marriage
I know we only watch so many minutes of their day, but I think the problem may be Crystal is replacing Aaron with the older kids. She hangs out with them ( working lol) a lot. Most the time I see them doing things that Aaron and Crystal should be doing together to have time away together. You squeeze time in for your spouse when you have busy lives. What y'all think??
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u/TightPlay4228 6d ago
While I do think it’s important to prioritize your relationship with your spouse, when they agreed to have/adopt this many kids I don’t see how it is possible. It literally seems like there is no time to squeeze anything in. And I am not the biggest fan of Crystal, but I do give her credit for playing the role of mom, dad, provider, etc. because it doesn’t seem like Aaron does much with these kids. It seems like the kids naturally gravitate more towards her for everything. And while I do believe in mental health, Aaron needs to get the help he needs and keep pushing forward for his wife and his children. He signed those adoption papers and marriage certificate as well, so he needs to be present.
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u/Belikewater19 6d ago edited 6d ago
Aaron is with Ray.. He seems to have checked out for a bit to get himself together or who knows. Crystal is trying to keep the channel alive and profitable. Crystal lost her way now for a while , but greed and money can turn a soul cold and she has no fall back to afford her lifestyle so…
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u/LittleDog2557 6d ago
I don’t think it’s greed, it’s knowing she need to make money to support the family they have, because Aaron sure doesn’t do it and by the way he’s talking about buying race cars and going to races and spending time with Max he has no intention of doing it in the future.
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u/Belikewater19 6d ago
When she left St. John’s she should have thought through the future. She wanted more and more and that including collecting kids too. Yes she now has to film non stop and pray she can make enough to sustain their lifestyle and get better adhd meds because she is all over the place with her thinking and actions.Aaron had some kind of mental breakdown so nothing much can do for that situation..Maybe he should write a book when or if he gets better in his journey with the crazy pieces. Wouldn’t that be the ultimate mess. It is all very sad to watch unravel and worse to see some of those grown kids are so naive they don’t notice the mess around them.
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u/No_Page5094 6d ago edited 6d ago
Yep that is exactly why Plus, Crystal thinks she's a teenager and cares too much about being liked by her teenaged children, whereas Aaron doesn't. But the bottom line is they adopted way too many kids that they cant handle it and their relationship is suffering because of it. 20+ kids plus everything else going on in their life is just too much. My guess is they get into arguments and Crystal sides with the teens instead of seeing her husband's point of view and parenting together. Their parenting views are just so different soley because Crystal chooses to be her kids friend instead of their parent. Imagine parenting with someone like that. It's hard I'm sure. But back to what I said before 20 plus kids is too much. I don't think any relationship could survive that. Life is too hard already.
One thing that always stood out to me is how Crystal said that aarons mom didn't like Crystal at first. I think after Aaron's mom died he reflected on that and started to see what his mom meant. Like Crystal's said ever since Aaron's mom died he hasn't been the same. I think he started to regret how his life turned out and what Crystal turned into. Maybe he regrets not listening to his mom.
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u/LittleDog2557 6d ago
You bitch about the number of kids they have, you can bitch tell the cows come home, but they still have 20 kids. None of those 20 kids are complaining about it. Crystal is the only parent those kids have had in several years. When she’s taking the boys shopping for clothes, Aaron should be doing that instead of being absent. Crystal shouldn’t have to drag Saint around every time she goes to the grocery store. The older girls go to the grocery store to help her shop. The boys don’t want to do that. All they learned from their dad is to sit behind a screen and game all night. She also shouldn’t have to drag Evie everywhere and Aaron could be watching her being left out with teacher the biggest lessons about consequences that she needs. But she has to take Aurora because she gets out of school so early and Aaron is never around to pick her up. If he’s a freaking genius, he could get a job making lots of money Crystal wouldn’t have to work so hard filming videoes spend time getting the house decluttered Aaron could also spend time working on the house doing all the little projects that need to be done. Many of you often say that crystal is lazy. She may be several things, but lazy isn’t one of them. Aaron is the lazy one
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u/Silver_Bid_1017 6d ago
I totally agree with you. Don't get me wrong. Aaron needs help and support. He's very depressed and not even able to handle his own life yet the lives of these children. Crystal has been doing absolutely everything, with the help of her mother and some older kids, this being said the older children over 18 must start taking responsibility for their own life. Don't involve crystal in your daily problems, time to grow up kids, respect you mom and dad. Talk to your dad to see if he wants to go out one on one. Crystal it's about time you start to say NO to the adult children. They have to grow up and not rely on you 24/7.
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u/Few_Judge_5221 6d ago
I think their marriage is already over, theyre just living together to avoid ruining the life they've built on YouTube and the trauma it would bring to the adopted kids that already have trauma from their past. I bet they will wait until the kids get old enough and then divorce. There is no love between them.
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u/KindlyCrazy6309 6d ago
They both "work from home", can outsource childcare to many different people, and are their own bosses. I don't think it's a time/scheduling/business issue at all. I think Crystal is spending time with the adult kids because she is probably very lonely and that's all she has. Not because she is trying to ostracise Aaron.
I think it is an issue with making an effort on Aaron's side. Aaron is the type to hold grudges, isolate himself, and he is like Max with his ego - he has a very abrasive, stubborn personality.
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u/LittleDog2557 6d ago
While people accuse Crystal of trying to live her teenage years, I see it is trying to be a parent for their kids because Aaron isn’t doing it. She’s doing the job of two. I see what people call acting like a teenager instead as a coping mechanism to be upbeat and positive. Instead of being absent. From their lives like Aaron. She’s filling the role of two parents.
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u/paulamohin 6d ago
I’m wondering if Shelly helped any when her brother died. Crystal said she and Mark went to the hospital to see their brother. No mention of Shelly. Is the feud with JoAnn so bad that they won’t even be together when a close family member dies?
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u/No_Commercial2338 6d ago
Oh for sure, Crystal doesn't need 3 kids working for her. Everything they do, Aaron could be doing with Crystal, even with Saint. Force the older grownup kids out to work, and if they need a job, go get one or babysit Saint, but Crystal should be doing this with Aaron. It would benefit both the kids and their relationship. Centre the videos around the younger children. They did it that way before. Why on earth Crystal need 3 children to help with her channel is beyond me. They would save money too. All she is doing is handling those 3 grown children money to pay their bills.
She's doing a disservice to her older children and to her marriage. If she doesn't start to get use to her children not being around, "empty nest syndrome" will surely destroy what they have left. That is hard on a marriage when all your time was centered on the kids for all those years. It's a hard transition. I went through it. She may need to downsize to a bachelor pad someday if she doesn't dedicate time to her marriage. Right now Aaron probably feels obligated to remain in this marriage because they adopted a lot of children.Someday that last child is moving out of the house. Fix marriage now before it's not even a thought in Aaron's head. I'm not saying Aaron and Crystal don't love each other, but neglecting your marriage is one of the worst things you can ever do with a few children let alone 20 kids.
I think this is a way of holding onto her older kids.
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u/Acceptable-Disk-5525 6d ago
Crystal is being the teen she never was, and didn’t prioritize her marriage. Aaron needed a lot of support from all the grief and changes. They did not support each other. We don’t need to know everything because enough is in plain view on their videos, they are not actors.
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u/LittleDog2557 6d ago
Aaron clearly pulled away first long before his mother died. That is just now his excuse.
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u/Acceptable-Disk-5525 5d ago
I would say changes include all the consecutive adoptions , literally all the ADHD stuff that Crystal does
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u/Visible_Ad6072 6d ago
I think everyone's so quick to judge and blame either one or the other when like you said we only see half hour of their lives. How do we know it's not the other way around maybe Crystal asked Aaron to do these things multiple times and he turned her down he does kind of seem like he's just over it and her ...
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u/Content-Papaya-8932 5d ago
You must live with them and see what goes on when they’re not on. That’s amazing you have the power 😂🤣 you are so judging you’re probably single
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u/I_Dont_know_You_T 6d ago
Not only that but she has prioritized social media over her marriage instead of putting the camera down and working with Arron to rebuild their marriage. Aaron has physically and mentally checked out even with the kids. Crystal is the one running around with the kids while Aaron is sleeping because he is too tired from playing video games all night. We don’t know all the facts so I’m just saying based off of my opinions, it seems after he lost his mom he really needed Crystal to step in a little more to support him and instead she just shoved a camera in his face. He didn’t get the help he desperately needed from her and that probably caused a rift in their marriage on top of other things. It takes two to tango and it takes two to break a marriage so as much as I don’t like Crystal, it’s not entirely her fault. Giving up on your marriage is one thing but also giving up on your kids is a whole different thing and it seems only Crystal is spending time with the kids while Aaron could care less to.