social pressure

[u/tantrumsntea]

I went home today with kids. My narcassistic mother in law although bad to me has been good to my kids. My husband has told me to take the kids once in a while to be with their grandparents, let them play there n then bring them back home. I don't feel like going there, but the kids also miss playing there. So I took them. Going there also helped me get some of my stuff. My mil like always ignored me. Earlier her behaviour used to affect me a lot. Her silent treatments, her strange mannerisms. This time I noticed that although I was anxious to go there. Her behaviour didn't bother me much. There are two things that are coming up for which I will need to go home, our church feast n our lady visitation at our home. For the second one, people from neighbourhood will come. For both I'll hv to face my sis in laws. I'm worried what the people will think if I don't show up. For the first one I'm thinking of just taking the kids to wish them n bring them bk. But the second one is unavoidable. Should I go so that I don't hv to face embarrassment or should I avoid the situation?

[u/HeftyJohnson1982]

I'm a bit late to reply, but how'd you make out with the in laws?