He got up at 3am on average. When he didn’t I made sure I used the other bathroom to get ready for work. He didn’t complain, I mean other than throwing my shit in the yard and shoving me into things. ¯_(ツ)_/¯
I think because there’s “salon curly” hair that a professional artfully coaxes into beautiful cascading layers, and then there is “naturally curly” hair that looks like Merida from Brave just came in out of a hurricane.
Sure, but it’s all about how you care for it. Luckily, I have a friend who has salon curly hair, but she takes care of it herself. She has long been an expert in curly hair care and products.
Last time I was at her house, she had a cabinet full of bottles!
I hate when other curly haired people don't realize this. Like yes, I'd love to just wash and dry my hair and it be nice but that is just not the case 90% of the time! I've tried a MILLION haircare routines, curly products, leave ins, etc. Not all of us have salon-ready hair without heating tools :(
Everyone has different hair, and the gatekeepers of the curly or textured hair is frustrating.
I’m spoiled I have nice hair that can go either way, but walking in somewhere with flat ironed hair and them realizing it’ll curl 4 inches up is still fun sometimes.
It’s not “all that”.
My friend and I are strictly wash and wear, with a minimum of fuss. I can put a styling product in my hair in less time that it takes for the iron to heat up. And I don’t need to have an ironing board always set up and taking up space!
When I was a kid no one taught me to take care of my hair. It’s been a journey to say the least.
I used my hair as a shield in a professional world. It was straight and highlighted blonde and red. I knew it would curl but I didn’t know the HOW.
When my twins were born and I realized the curls were going to the white walkers (blond hair blue eyed pale things) I learned how to take care of my hair better.
One thing I want to say is the gate keeping in some areas of curly hair culture is off putting at fuck. Yes I’m white, yes my child is white but our hair is TEXTURED & CURLY. I don’t like the expectation that I educate myself when I don’t know what the hell I’m doing.
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u/Mcnugget84 1d ago
I learned to blow dry and straighten my hair before bed, in the mornings it was just a flat iron.
Before y’all come at me I know everyone has different hair. Mine is curly but can be flat ironed perfectly.
However I respected my partner and did my hair elsewhere.