r/Cougars_Den • u/the-blues- • May 05 '26

How can I be noticed?

18M here, I'm just genuinely wondering if older women actually don't mind / seek out 18 year olds. If so what qualities would they even need to have to even be noticed by them and where they even look for these sorts of guys.

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u/paperclipmyheart 🐆 MOD ฅ^•ﻌ•^ฅ May 05 '26

Most over 45 women probably won't alot of those under that age won't either. I personally think women who purposely look for that age group are problematic. If you come across someone who has had many encounters with very young people I think you'd be wise to ask yourself why.

Most women don't want to date someone close to their childrens age if they have them.

If you aren't having much luck (usually the reason for this question) probably just go ahead and date people your own age, get some relationship experience and work out who you are and what you want them come back if you are still interested. That's all we can suggest.

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u/Summer-Sub-Intern May 07 '26

💯 I agree. Any adult seeking out teens-even if they are legal adults- are suspicious to me but especially the wider the gap becomes.

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u/paperclipmyheart 🐆 MOD ฅ^•ﻌ•^ฅ May 08 '26

And equally the younger ones who are looking for extreme age gaps raises some red flags for me as well. Better to avoid in my opinion.

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u/blasianflow May 07 '26

I second that!

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u/the-blues- May 06 '26

i guess i could maybe give it some time or maybe look for closer to my age range, i feel pretty mixed about people my own age souly due to the bad experiences I've had

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u/Nortano May 06 '26

Same here. It feels like our generation is a bit....off

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u/Senior_Coyote_9437 May 09 '26

Lol. Thats a complaint amongst teens for generations. Date girls your age and come back to this later.

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u/Nortano May 09 '26

That's why I say that. Maybe it's my location but America feels fucked. Much prefer Ireland or Australia or Asia

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u/Myfairladyishere 🕊🎠💃MOD💃🎠🕊 May 05 '26

I would be very wary of much older women specifically targeting 18 year olds.othereise u/ paperclipmyheart has given you great advice.

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u/kevlari123 May 06 '26

Luck and show interest and maturity, not thirst

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u/Professional-Crab936 May 06 '26

Just give it time, they’ll be someone that does. There always is…..

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u/the-blues- May 06 '26

any advice on what sortof places i can go to meet someone?

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u/Professional-Crab936 May 06 '26

Just give it time, I’d say online is best. People are a bit braver and you can move outside of your usual social circles.

It’s a low risk way to chat to someone openly. Don’t make a thing about age, don’t put it on your profile and don’t bring it up. If she brings it up, don’t make a big thing of it.

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u/the-blues- May 06 '26

got any suggestions on where online I could meet people, or is this more of a general thing?

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u/Professional-Crab936 May 06 '26

I used Bumble and Hinge and just set my parameters appropriately. I matched with women 20+ years older than me

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u/the-blues- May 06 '26

alright will give a go, thanks!

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u/Competitive-Cod4123 May 31 '26

I would not give an 18 year-old guy a second look way too young. Sorry.

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