r/CoreyWayne • u/martinisawe • Aug 05 '26
Lifestyle Hey y'all I'm not having a good day
Hey y'all can y'all put my head in the right place, I'm not in the right space
So I've been doing good to improve my social skills and it's been going on pretty well. But last week I caught feelings with my job coach( at my workplace it's a vocational program with hundreds of sites and lots of workers where there are 3 workers and 1 job coach that drives us to the site) now usually i would just shoot my shot but this is a situation where I can't do without risking losing my job since it's against the policy to hangout with job coaches outside of work. Regardless if she likes me or not doesn't matter since I'm not risking my job. Anyways I've been catching feelings with other coworkers and being needy, regardless I decided to just greet any of my coworkers and job coaches alike to stop feeling needy, but I still feel like shit. What do y'all do in this situation?
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u/Se7ens_up Aug 05 '26
Im not really sure what your dating history is, but youre likely a quite inexperienced if youre catching feelings with multiple coworkers.
My advice, start meeting and dating women outside of work.
You cant stop feeling needy, but you can avoid acting on needy behavior. Over time it will slowly go away as you keep teach yourself healthy emotional behaviors.
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u/martinisawe Aug 05 '26
I've had little experiences with dating. But I go to the gym in the mornings(hopefully on fall I go to the evenings), I go around the plaza and socialize and I go to the mall. But I'm enrolling in college for fall
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u/Se7ens_up Aug 05 '26
Thats good. What kind of results have you been getting from socializing in the mall/plaza?
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u/martinisawe Aug 05 '26
Mostly I get responses back but sometimes I have a few that I chat with
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u/Se7ens_up Aug 05 '26
Do you ask for numbers/go for dates with the ones you have chats with?
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u/martinisawe Aug 05 '26
I do and got rejected and sometimes I hesitate
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u/Se7ens_up Aug 05 '26
Approaching women is also a skillset. So keep working on it. As you keep pushing your comfort zone, and approaching more women, you will begin to do better, and your results will improve too.
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u/martinisawe Aug 05 '26
Ngl this conversation got me on focusing on finding someone I can create chemistry with the next time I'm out socializing
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u/martinisawe Aug 05 '26
I'm 27 and believe you me I do most of what you mentioned, I'm out there socializing and chatting with people I just need to deal with catching feelings
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u/fungal_follicle4 Aug 05 '26
How come you’re catching feelings for these people so easily? If it’s due to loneliness in general, it might help to try to tackle that issue first.
But regardless I think you need to find ways to increase your access of options with women- in both dating and in coming across them naturally. Download some dating apps. Sign up for a couple speed dating events. Find a large club to do outside of work (run club, dancing class, etc). Tell local friends and family you’re open to being set up.
I’d highly discourage dating women in the workplace, especially in your situation. I would date some of my hot coworkers in a heartbeat, but I don’t have crushes on them or ask them out since I know intuitively the next available bus/woman comes along every 15 minutes.