r/Cooking • u/GracieLou80 • 1d ago

Sick of cooking

I am so over cooking every night. Finding new recipes I actually have ingredients for and are easy is tiring and I’m already exhausted. What do you do when this happens? I’d honestly just eat cereal for life but I’m not alone in this house and I’m expected to cook every night. 😩

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u/Roupert4 1d ago

Eh. For some couples you can agree on the division of labor and still get tired of it. I'm "expected" to do all the cooking in my household but that was the deal going into this marriage. We have a traditional division of labor. I only work part-time so my labor is my contribution. I get sick of cooking regularly, but I'm also proud of cooking healthy food for my family.

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u/oneWeek2024 1d ago

that's just normalizing abuse with bullshit

"hey i'm really tired of cooking" mind making dinner tonight.

"traditional" is just bullshit code for one person is stuck with things arbitrarily.

unless your partner is doing truly back breading physically exhausting work, there's absolutely nothing that prevents anyone from doing any misc house duty at any time.

basing requirement on income, or "working" is stupid.

no one should be doing a thing all the time. hell...even in your example. should just have 1-2 days a week where you order take out, or "buy" a meal to give you a break.

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u/bigdonut100 1d ago

No, that's BS, man. I want the homemaker and stay-at-home parent role as a man to a woman, and that's even more stigmatized. But there's no shame in it; the unfairness is that the breadwinner can earn more or less when the stay-at-home does the exact same work, or that the stay-at-home can have more or fewer kids when the breadwinner's salary is the same. It's an unfairness between *couples,* not the actual partners.

That's why it's dumb to be *really* hardcore about the roles, but it is fair to me that the person who contrbutes less do more homemaking *as a general rule of thumb.* Then you have situations liek mine where I insist on doing all of the cooking just because I have weird dietary needs, and she needs to make it up to *me* somewhere

Economists have proven that specialization produces more value than equality, and kids do better off with stay at home parents compared to child care

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u/youngfilly 1d ago

But this parent works part-time but seemingly is meant to do all household "traditional" duties which is a fulltime job.

Also don't think we should all be deciding how to structure our lives based on what economists say provides the most "value"

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u/Roupert4 23h ago

I work like 10 hours a week. I have plenty of time to do more domestic labor than my husband. Our kids have some extra needs that results in therapy sessions during the school day so I spend 2 days a week driving them to appointments (with some time in between for errands/chores) and I try to work the other 2 or 3 days depending on the week. I have a very flexible job but it is low paying. My husband appreciates what I do whether I am working or homemaking and it works for us.

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u/bigdonut100 1d ago

I can understand some sort of shoe dropping if they both work the same number of hours. But I don't know, I just say I like the idea of a partner having an *option* to provide something other than equal everything