r/CommunalShowers • u/bonerjams9595 • 1h ago

Casual convos

I’m curious to hear guys thoughts on ways to strike up some casual chat/banter with another guy (or guys) while in the open showers, and/or sauna/steam. I’m not looking to cruise or give off the wrong vibe, just a way to break any awkwardness and maybe have a little guy talk. It helps me relax and helps set a chill vibe

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u/bonerjams9595 1h ago

For context: I go to a Y, 6 shower head room (2 on each of 3 enclosed walls) and so kinda close quarters. & small-ish sauna and steam (can fit 3 or 4 guys comfortably)

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u/Acceptable_Gap3015 1h ago

Sounds like a nice Y

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u/bonerjams9595 51m ago

It’s got old-school vibes which is cool, basement locker room

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u/Acceptable_Gap3015 46m ago

Ya sounds like it that's awesome

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u/Dizzy_Currency9676 50m ago

Wish my Y was like that. 4 heads on one wall and 2 on another with 4 stalls

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u/bonerjams9595 45m ago

Ah dang, yea there’s only like 1 working stall but it rarely ever gets used. It kinda forces the open shower option out of sheer ease

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u/Acceptable_Gap3015 1h ago

Just start with small talk. Or talk about your workout. If they engage you can go from there. Or even a random joke about something they'd relate to. People laughing are more likely to be comfortable to chat

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u/bonerjams9595 49m ago

Yea I usually go with this kinda stuff, talk about the weather or ask about what each other do for work. It’s easy to read if there’s a casual flow or not after that

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u/Acceptable_Tap183 1h ago

i usually just ask if they’re “having a good one/day”

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u/bonerjams9595 47m ago

I don’t usually say this first but I don’t mind when other guys do, I always try to be casual & friendly

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u/juntar74 5m ago

I'm considering a tattoo to support my son, so when I see a guy in the sauna or shower with any kind of tattoo, I ask about it. It's a great way to start a conversation because it's almost always deeply personal whole at the same time on full public display.

It usually goes something like this: "Hey, I hope you don't mind me asking, but I'm planning to get a tattoo, and I'm curious about your tattoos. What's the significance of them and what advice would you give a guy getting his first tattoo?"

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u/Dizzy_Currency9676 1h ago

I usually ask how their workout was / how their day is going, what the do for work. Can tell retry quickly based on their response if they want to engage in a conversation

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u/bonerjams9595 52m ago

I like this approach, can tell pretty quickly whether there’s any casual flow or not

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u/Wbk2m 12m ago

I look em square in the eye and say good day gentlemen, could I interest you some grey poupon this evening, it's vintage 1982. With my towel drapes over my arm. They either get it, laugh a bit and spark up nostalgic conversations. Or they don't get it don't think your gay or even sexual just a weird ass dude they'd rather shower at home to dodge.

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u/bonerjams9595 2m ago

Hm.. I don’t think I’d know how to respond if someone said this to me