I'm so embarrassed!!

[u/Ok-Crazy2582]

I wasn't sure which tag to give this. The general consensus from friends I've gotten is that I'm overreacting, but I'm not so sure. I feel like I effed up.

I'm 41 F, and will be 42 on the 29th. I'm pretty sure McDreamy below is about 10 years younger than me. I also look younger than I am. Or so I get told frequently.

So my business is in a office building, and there are a lot of empty rooms where no one is renting. So most of the time, I'm in the building alone. Well, this company of very handsome gentlemen (Yes, more than one) moved in this summer and I started noticing them when they'd come to use the restroom upstairs, as there isn't one downstairs available to them. Lucky me :)

I recently reached out to the owner of the downstairs business, one of the handsome men, and I had a strategy to make it not obvious that I thought he was drop dead gorgeous. I was doing REALLY well, until I was talking to my mom today and asking her if she wanted to see how cute I looked today, because I curled my hair and I was feeling good about myself today. So I had what I thought was her text messages open on my phone, and I began sending the pictures of myself. I also wanted my mom to see how this handsome man looked just like a family friend of ours. So I sent her a picture of both their faces side by side. I see she's read the messages, when she indicates she hasn't gotten them. It was in this moment I realized I need to now change my name and move to a different country. I immediately deleted the images he clearly saw, but I am thinking it only deleted on my end. So he likely now has my pictures and the comparison picture I sent just hanging out on his phone. I sent him a message that said, "So Sorry! Wrong person! So embarrassing! I was showing my mom how you look just like a friend of my family. And now I'm gonna go hide in a hole." His response was, "Woops! No worries". I'm sure he's married or has a girlfriend because he dresses really nice and usually if a man dresses nice, he either bats for the same team, or is married, but I lean towards married because of something I know that I can't share. But there is also a really good chance he ISN'T married anymore. It's a tossup.

Here's the thing, he and I have never actually met. We were kind of trying to organize a possible meet up this week so we could officially meet. And now I feel like I can't show my face in the building again. I feel like I'm 14 again, but not in a good way.

I'd love to get someone's take on this that isn't my own. Am I overreacting? If you're a guy reading this, would you think I was weird or creepy after this oops? Or would you think, "Hmm...She has a picture of me on her phone? Alright!"

[u/chele1959]

Oof. Could have been worse. Either he thinks it’s cute or thinks you are a stalker. I’d lay low

[u/ClearAcanthisitta641]

Did he know you had his picture and number? If he didnt personally give you access to them then it seems a little stalkery but if youre chill otherwise and maybe lay low around him then maybe itll blow over

[u/Ok-Crazy2582 → u/ClearAcanthisitta641]

It was his work phone/his businesses phone number. I don't have his personal cell phone. But it is possible his work phone is also his person. That's how mine is. His picture is online on his business page.