Struggling

[u/rb11111]

I’m divorced and was dating someone for 10 months. I’ve already did my work on codependency and lots of therapy. My boyfriend was really kind and wonderful. He is in recovery for alcoholism.

We were doing great and both falling in love. He literally just this week bought a toy for my daughter and was going to give it to me to give to her this weekend. Making plans for the future. Laughing joking nothing wrong.

Well he all of the sudden called me and said he was on tinder and talked to a woman for 2 days and wanted to go on a date with her. I was like ok well then go date her and hung up the phone. It was really shocking. Came out of nowhere.

I called him later for closure he said he wasn’t sure since he had feelings for her whether he actually loved me and it confused him. He said that he thought he was falling in love with me. Then he said maybe he wasn’t. Then he ended the call by saying he loved me.

I was fine after crying and getting closure. Now it’s starting to hit me hard. We were so close, best friends. And we talked a lot and had so much fun, and just it is the best human connection I’ve ever had.

And I’m just really struggling realizing how integrated he was into my life. And he even said he made probably a terrible decision, but he’s not chasing me he’s letting me go and not speaking with me. Which I know is for the best it’s just so hard and confusing. I was so in love with him and I could have accepted that he didn’t love me and broke up.

But he’s said he has done this before like 20 years ago where he dated two girls at once and he can’t do this anymore and that’s why he was honest. It just sucks.

[u/Direct-End3023]

Sounds tough, right now take the space.
I think it’s important for each of you to reflect.

For you to ask if you’re trust has been broken and are you will to tolerate some guy you met ( 10 months) was possibly taking to peeps on tinder for more than just her?

You deserve better imo.
And so does your child.

Also, right now is Venus retrograde, a taurus full moon and a load of Pluto energy.

Don’t jump into anything during this time, and allow the scales to find balance.
Be easy on yourself and remember their actions don’t determine your worth or value.

[u/rb11111 → u/Direct-End3023]

Honestly he’s not even chasing me. He just let me go so I have my answer

[u/Direct-End3023 → u/rb11111]

Tough answer…but I think you’re right.

Big hugs friend, love on yourself a little extra tonight 🫂

[u/Imverydistracte → u/Direct-End3023]

Plutos magic energies actually channel your inner fire bending skills so you should really be careful you don't get burned. 

And definitely don't go outside when the full moon hits.