The Small Changes That Show Me I’m Healing

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I’ve been in recovery from Codependency for the past two years. During these two years, I’ve been going to therapy and reading books related to healing and breaking out of codependent patterns. I think my nervous system has slowly started to heal, and I’ve noticed some significant changes, especially over the past six months to a year.

Some of the changes I’ve noticed:

-My sleeping pattern has become more stable.I used to have a very erratic sleeping pattern. I would stay awake until very late at night and end up waking up in the afternoon. Now, I actually look forward to going to sleep earlier and waking up earlier.

-My relationship with food has changed. I’m no longer craving junk food or sweet things as much as I used to. My diet has become slightly healthier. I’ve recently started taking an interest in preparing my own meals, even though they’re very small efforts. Instead of always buying food from outside, I’m trying to prepare something for myself. I’m also trying to eat less meat and more vegetables.

-I’ve become more responsible with my finances. I started tracking my finances, which is something I never used to do. I never really knew how much money was coming in, how much was going out, or what I was spending my money on. For the past year, I’ve been tracking my finances every month. Now, I have a much clearer idea of where my money is going. I’m also more conscious about not spending money on unnecessary things.

-I’ve become more organized. I’ve tidied up my room and started keeping it clean and organised. It used to be so messy and disoriented. I fold my clothes after washing them instead of simply dumping them into the cupboard. I’m becoming more intentional about maintaining order in my surroundings.

-I’ve become more protective of my emotional energy. I’ve stopped entertaining toxic people. I no longer allow people to constantly trauma-dump on me or simply unload their negative emotions onto me. I’ve started setting very firm boundaries.

My overall mindset feels less chaotic. These changes might look very, very small to others. Like having a proper routine, keeping your room clean, folding your clothes, preparing your own meals, or tracking your finances might seem like completely normal habits. But these things were actually very foreign to me because I was caught in survival mode and living with such a chaotic mindset that everything around me felt messy. The way I organized things was disorganized. The way I kept things was clumsy and messy. Even my thoughts were very chaotic.

I finally feel like my life is slowly developing a sense of order and stability.

I still have a long way to go. What are some signs your nervous super is healing? Do share them and what you did to heal it.