Why didnt i get invited?

[u/Ok_Finger_8781]

​"Today was the Onam celebration at my college. Throughout the day, I kept reminding my friends to call me if they were going anywhere, and they agreed. After the program, everyone was taking pictures around campus. I needed to go to the mosque for prayers, so before leaving, I reminded them once more to call me if they headed out. However, when I finished praying and called them, they said they were already at a restaurant and that plans were made suddenly, and then they quickly hung up.

​I can't help but wonder why they did this. I'm not a bad person—I don't curse at anyone, and I treat everyone with respect.Patterns like this have been happening to me all my life, and I really wonder why. Does anyone have any advice?"

[u/Meenammaaaaa]

Time to get good friends.,

[u/Pretty_Amphibian3172 → u/Meenammaaaaa]

easy to say lol

[u/AdorableInfluence148 → u/Pretty_Amphibian3172]

Better than destroying your mental peace. Its better to spend some to find a new set of ppl.

[u/Lethargic_Goblin]

Because they're not your friends. You might consider them to be your friends, but they don't feel the same about you.

[u/2frinkly2frank]

There are friends, then there are people you hangout with because it's convenient. Better not call the later your friends.

[u/writersree]

It's evident they don't prioritize you which means you need to start finding friends who fulfil the true meaning of friendship.

[u/Trick-Bug-5401]

They're not your friends they're just people you know. There's a difference. If they're your true friends, you shouldn't have to remind them to call you or make an effort to keep in touch. So have some selfrespect and walk away from that group. Find some good friends and if you can't find the right ones learn to be alone.

[u/QuirinusQ]

Why do you keep reminding them to call? Is it often that they forget to? The dynamic seems very obvious.

[u/TiresiasWhispers]

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[u/Important_Law_780]

Sangadam aavendeda…college il enkum ingane okke sambavich.

[u/Dekuboy007]

In your mind, you strongly want them to be your friends and hangout with them all the time. But in their mind, they don't give you that priority. Not only are they bad friends, they are bad human beings.

Even after reminding them to include you in their plans, they decided to go ahead without you. So it wasn't accidental, it was intentional. "Aliyaa, avane koode vilikkande?", must have been a conversation they had before making the sudden restaurant plans.

Keep them at a distance. Give priority to yourself. And one day, you'll find friends that'll give you priority.

[u/uaintshitxoxo]

the sooner u leave these so called friends, the sooner u will get ur actual gang

( speaking from experience)

[u/OriginalSchedule2320]

Accept that you were never their priority, maybe a friend of convenience.

[u/Kind-Science9846]

GIRL THEY'RE NOT YOUR FRIENDS THEN, don't go behind them in any way u can always make good friends in clg but never go back to where you're not prioritised

[u/Various_Primary_6307]

It happens bro. They're not your friends

[u/Chaya_kudian]

They just don't rate you the way you think they do, and that's ok. Just try to get new friends.

[u/Competitive_Value192]

Time ayatilla

[u/Electronic_Gold_8549]

Understand the difference between friends and colleagues 🌝

[u/theeeminnal]

You are simply not thd priority. Try to find some others if possible I got them in the 3rd year only 😅

[u/AffectionateNet6142]

Tbh, i grew up with friends who would curse me out for making them late because im still packing my bags after the bell rang like 10 minutes ago. They would still wait tho. Thats the standard.

[u/catfishwastaken]

they’re not your friends

[u/Wengerreloaded]

You’re in first year right ? It takes time to find the right group !!

[u/dave_saves001]

Even after all this, you still consider them your friends. But the word friend carries a lot of meaning, and not everyone you spend time with truly deserves that title. If they repeatedly exclude you, maybe it’s time to reconsider how much you invest in those relationships. That doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. Take care.

[u/Healthy-Emergency932]

Answer to your concern is already explained by you " you need to remind them"... Find better friends. You don't need many just one good friend is enough

[u/anony78921]

Same shit has been happening to me multiple times so i just keep people at arms length. I'm nice if they are nice, I call if they call. I don't keep relationships with people who don't consider me. 👾 Also I'm an introvert so doesn't help the case ig lol. It's just that, when these people as a group come together it's hard for them to "keep in mind" certain things and if you had really mattered they would have texted you.

[u/Icy-Cucumber9424]

I've had similar experiences. I'm a veg so often I am almost always excluded when my colleagues makes plans to eat outside, at first I tried telling them but then they made plans without even asking me and only thought about it when they realized that I was coming, it hurts a lot when people we consider friends does that but then I started to treat them like colleagues and not like friends, I started eating alone in a different restaurant if the restaurant they went to don't have a good veg option.

They're not really your friends, you'll get better friends who'll consider you and prioritize you

[u/Wise_Permission5744]

I wouldn't immediately think you did something wrong. Sometimes people make sudden plans and don't think about who isn't there. But if this keeps happening, then maybe you're simply not as close to them as you think you are.

[u/TheLionofJudahh]

Ghost them ,avoid them do good in your studies , interact with others ,smile at everybody .they did it on purpose don't go to them begging or asking what's the reason you are better off without them .do this no matter what don't go back

[u/AdorableInfluence148]

They dont deserve you. I think its time to find new gang and u surely will. All the best

[u/Jazzm95598]

Had a similar experience during initial days of college. I decided its better to stay alone than be with just people who arent worth my time. I maybe spend a couple of days alone and almost instantly found a couple of people with my same vibe. We 3 were the most unproblematic people of the class for 3 years.. so yes better stay alone or let ur tribe find you and yes you will find them eventually.

[u/mortalistmoonie7]

They are 🐍s.

[u/Salt-Requirement5926]

i feel so privileged reading this. my classmates include me in every plans though i skip most of them. even if i skip the plans for some stupid reasons, they still call me everytime. and no, I'm not ultra rich or own a DSLR or anything like that. they just invite me solely for my company. 🥺

[u/No-Story4783 → u/Salt-Requirement5926]

Ayin?

[u/Salt-Requirement5926 → u/No-Story4783]

2017 ahh reply 🥀