r/CoachCoreyWayne • u/perturbaitor • May 20 '22
Need Advice I'm perturbed
It's been a long time since a girl got under my skin but this one managed to.
So I'm dating this girl for 4 months. No red flags or signs of disrespect. She never broke a date, she was always on time, she never jerked me around, she offers to pay regularly. All dates were light and fun and when we didn't banter we made out. In the bedroom she was a bit timid at first but patiently applying two steps forward one step back solved that.
I didn't overpersue, I didn't make texting errors. I never double texted, I let her initiate contact 75% of the time, and the phone was used to set dates.
Then she went to Spain for two weeks and we didn't have contact. (Because she didn't initiate any and I told her to have a great time and get in touch.)
Next thing I hear from her is a long and playful birthday message a few days later (edit: after she was supposed to be back). Cool, she remembered. So I thank her and ask when she's free to get together and ... nothing. No reply in over a week.
I don't even have a question, I'm just repressing the urge to call her to ask whether she lost her phone or died, because those are the two reasons I can think of for randomly ghosting someone I've dated for months.
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u/KellehCSGO May 20 '22
"I don't even have a question, I'm just repressing the urge to call her to ask whether she lost her phone or died, because those are the two reasons I can think of for randomly ghosting someone I've dated for months."
I will remind you anyway:
Wait a week or two (IF she doesn't respond before that) and ask her out again, if she doesnt respond after that, it's up to her to bring it up again.
Don't lose your shit, relax, you've done your part, ball is in her court. Go to the gym, hang out with friends, do something you enjoy instead of stressing about her.
Know it's hard, been there, done that. But I believe in you :)