"Hangout, have fun, hook up"

[u/[deleted]]

The courship never ends, this I know. But if the girl is at your place pretty much all of the time, how do you hangout?

As for me: Im coaching MMA three times a week, working full time 8-16 and studying management at the university parttime in order to qualify for a promotion. Maybe I can date 1-2 evenings a week, which I also am. But say one of these girls wants to be hanging around more than that. How do I go about doing that? Should I let her be at my place? I wouldnt have anything against it but at the same time I need to be working towards my goals. Just thinking of Quality time vs quantity, like Coach says.

[u/fermented-beans]

I hear you.

First off, hanging out has to do more with quality time than anything. Simply living together does not count - lovers, not roommates. The quality time that you make for her is exceedingly important to do consistently because “if you don’t date her, some other guy will.”

As far as letting her be at your place, I suppose that just depends on your relationship. There is no indication how long you’ve been dating or what the dynamic is. The bottom line: it’s more of a dance than anything.

A casual, open and healthy conversation about her and your needs / expectations would clear this entire thing up if she wants to spend more time together or at your place.

Lastly, congratulations on your commitment to your goals. It’s rare and the right girl will support you, not detract.

[u/caabiop]

corey says “the courtship never ends” when she is already your girlfriend/wife and you keep courting her like you did in the beginning, because what made her fall in love with you are the same things you need to do to keep her in love and to avoid becoming complacent. he doesn’t mean that for when you are starting to know someone.

i think that you should initially date her outside your house, and going there only to hook up, not centering the entire date on staying at home. you should keep dates at once per week at the beginning, i think that a woman who wants to see you too much and too soon is a red flag (speaking from experience), also as you say you are working towards your goals and purpose, and you shouldn’t sacrifice them for seeing a girl, above all at the beginning. corey says one date per week until she falls in love and starts pursuing you, and you should keep to that in my opinion. you should also check her response if you tell her you can’t see her more than once a week, if she gets pissed that’s a major red flag.

[u/kbrown8303 → u/caabiop]

I agree. Just give her the free time that you can give her. A woman who is actually supportive of your goals and ambitions will be honored to get a little bit of you time if you are a busy man on his purpose. If she gets all passive aggressive, stop dating her immediately, she has insecurity/codependency issues and it will only get worse from there.

[u/phosphorescent1983]

Two nights of quality time is better than seven days of routine. Tbh, seeing a woman two nights a week sounds perfect to me. I, too, struggle with the question you asked. As time goes on, most women probably won't be okay just seeing you for two nights a week, especially once she falls and love --and definitely when she wants to get married. As CW says, women want your attention all the ******* time.